Been married 10 years, together about 12. DH has always been a bit distant but I am not sure I can cope with living like this forever.
Our marriage is loveless in most definitions of love and sexless. It is like a friendship. With a bit of tension.
He never, ever tells me he loves me. He never hugs or touches me. He has made it clear that he doesn't find me especially attractive although not in as nasty way as that sounds.
We have not had sex for a few YEARS. He was uninterested and I gave up trying to initiate as it's humiliating when someone rejects you. I honestly cannot see sex ever happening again between us as there are so many issues. He once said I didn't really do it for him. I don't even want sex anymore with him so even if he miraculously jumped me I'd tell him no as it would be too weird and I don't feel comfortable about my body anymore with him.
He doesn't seem to care about my feelings if something bad is happening. He doesn't make an effort to call and chat to me (he does with dc) when he is away from home for work.
He probably wouldn't care if he didn't speak to me for a week - out of sight and out of mind.
He is a great dad though and dd adores him. If it were just me I think I'd leave. It would be hard because I do sort of love him but it would be the right thing. But there is dd.
He wants more kids and I can't have any without lots of treatment. If we split up maybe he could go and have more kids with someone else. Someone he actually fancies. So he'd maybe be happier.
BUT if I left it would be so hard on dd and then there are the financial issues.
It's not so bad day to day but there must be more to life than this?
Oh and we've tried counselling. It wasn't for him. He doesn't want to change.