DP just hit me

[derewa]

Have name changed

We were arguing about how I don't think we spend enough time together and his attitude towards me and he just lost it and punched me in the stomach and in the arm. He then stormed out of the house.

I'm shocked, he's got quite aggressive in the past but he's never been violent towards me. I don't know what to do.

Oh and please go to A&E if you can. It is worth getting checked out - being assaulted like that is worrying, especially being hit in the stomach.

You are doing the right thing, you do not need men like this in your life. Stay with your brother and think what you want to do, you need never see him again and believe it is unlikely to be a one-off and he will do it again.

Keep strong. if you speak to him he will swear it won't happen again and that it wasn't really him a 'red mist descended' but I promise you he will do it again, then you might be pregnant and you could lose your baby, or worse land your child with a violent monster for a father.

Well done getting out so quickly. Please don't go back no matter how sorry he is, no matter how much he swears/promises it won't happen again, no matter what excuses he gives. DON'T GO BACK.

Get the rest of your stuff when he's out and leave the keys so he knows you're not coming back (and you do too).

DON'T GO BACK.

Have you got to your brothers OP?

Hope you're okay x

Please listen to the good advice you are getting here.

Let us know you are ok, and get support - from a friend who can keep you strong when you start to miss this guy; if there is no one like that around you, then call women's aid and ask about support groups.

It is hard, but this man is no good for you. Go now and make a future with someone who wants to keep you and your future children SAFE.

He sounds like he knows what he's doing ie not hitting you in the face where bruising would be visible. Huge red flag to what
could be round the corner if you stay. ( hope u don't)

DO NOT go back. it is not worth the risk.

these things often escalate in pregnancy and they get worse over time.

you are free to walk away. if you stay you are at risk of a lot worse violence and having to take traumatised children away too. your children deserve a better father than this.

Sorry for the lack of update, I'm at my brothers who has been a star and safe and well. He came round but my brother pleaded ignorance and said he didn't know where I was (not sure whether that was a good idea but he was on the spot to be fair). He says he'll help me collect the rest of my stuff when there's a time window when xP is going to be out. I've got all important documents such as passport etc and enough clothes so there is no rush to go back.

glad you are safe - do wish you would put this on record with the police in case it happens to some girl in the future

Well done derewa; glad to hear you are safe and well taken care of.

Do consider getting this on record with the police and your GP/hospital in case your P doesn't accept being walked out on and starts harassing you; you may need to eventually ask for a non-molestation order and such records would help.

Glad to hear you are safe and that your brother is helping out!

If you have any visible bruising or marks, you may want to take photographs, even if you never have any reason to look at them ever again. Document the event, get your stuff, and move on with your life. Wishing you the very best.

I agree that punching you in stomach is a big big warning sign. Someone I know (who sadly still has not found the strength to leave the bastard) gets hit in the stomach and on the back because those are places where no one can see the bruises. Also for him to punch you there when you are trying for a baby is sickening. Well done for leaving when you did. Stay strong xx

Glad to hear you are safe.

It's entirely up to you but ItsMe makes a good point about getting it on record.

Hooray, and good on your brother for not telling him anything.

When my ex first hit me, I didn't report to the police. I thought it must have been a huge mistake and when he came back, apologising profusely with flowers, tears, love you's, I was so relieved. I knew I had provoked him, he was a nice guy really, he loved me, it would all be OK and he wouldn;t do it again. We got engaged, bought a house.

I attempted suicide 6 months later. The abuse never stopped, it just paused then it got worse. I ended up in hospital twice. REPORT HIM - the only (illogical) reason not to is because you still 'love' him. That's not love btw it's attachment. It takes a lot of emotion and time to form an attachment strong enought to TTC, it will take time and work to detach but you MUST.