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Is it essential to be 'in love' with your dp?

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fairycake · 28/11/2005 21:50

I have a ds who is 5 and have been a single parent since he was born, I have had a few 'flings' but no-one has ever met ds until I met my dp 3 months ago.

I had got to a stage where I thought I would never meet anyone, so hard to find someone who ticks all the right box's and wants to be part of a family. Ds has no contact with his father and I really wanted to meet someone who wanted to be that to him.

Anyway about 3 months ago I met my dp, He is mad about ds and I, wants to be like a father to him,
wants more children (as i do). He is kind, thoughtful, attractive, funny, a lovely bloke, but.... he doesn't make my heart flip over. I do love him and look forward to seeing him but don't get butterflies in my stomach!

Things have moved v quickly and we are moving in together at christmas, however I am now getting cold feet. He has done so much for us, has remorgaged his house to redecorate etc. Ds is looking forward to the move and to living with dp and (in his words) 'being a family'.

Not really sure how to end this post but any advice would be hugely appreciated

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peachandpear · 29/11/2005 13:46

PS, No-one knows how this will turn out for you but sometimes we just need to take risks in life. Better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all - isn't that the saying!!? And besides. how important is tummy flipping!? A close friend of mine, her DH flipped her tummy ALOT and he then turned round after 2 years of marriage and one child later and announced he was gay! So hey, that did her alot of good didn't it!

jenk1 · 29/11/2005 13:47

Fairycake my DH didnt make my tummy flip over either!!!

He also was very suffocating at first,wanting to do everything for me and i HATED that.

Once we sorted all that out everything was fine, and i totally agree with what others have said love grows and matures and has its ups and downs, the other stuff - "The Hollywood Version" doesnt last long IMO

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