I have a date tomorrow and im in a panic and i need tips to end up not being the ' used for sex girl'

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happens everytime i go on a date with somone.
Firstly i get all wound up because i worry im too fat, or ugly, or boring, or old or just not exciting enough and because ive been single for so long that im not entirely sure i even know how to be with a man in that way.
Secondly the rejection afterwards is just horrible, i find it quite hard to deal with. OR, i just get detmoted to not girlfriend material but will quite happily shag me. This is mostly what seems to happen. Men seem to just view me in a sexual way and try and i might i cant seem to stop this happening.
I need tips of avoiding this or how i can stop this being the case.

I personally don't think it matters all that much when you sleep with someone. They either like you or they don't.

Men that are just after sex will be just after sex whether you sleep with them on the first date or the tenth. Men that think you're somehow of less value because you fancied having sex sooner rather than later are misogynistic idiots that you wouldn't want to bother with anyway. The truth of the matter is that some of these men may just have wanted sex with you, but that doesn't mean they're not looking for a serious relationship. They could fall for the next woman they meet, and she could well have slept with them on the first date. Human emotions are a complicated thing.

Sex is not some sort of weapon that should be used to manipulate people eg using or witholding it in order to gain power and control over them. You cannot make someone love you by doing that, no matter what some books might tell you.

The golden rule for me is have sex when you want to. Simples. But make sure it really is sex you want. Because sex does not equal a relationship. It may be that a relationship grows with the person you're having sex with but equally it may not. That's the chance you take. Enjoy yourself.

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