To fat to go on a date

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I know a bloke who lives near my Mum and Dad. He works near them and runs into Mum quite a lot and I chat to him now and then if I see him.

He does some freelance gardening on the side and I asked him to come and do mine. We had a nice chat at mine when he was there and then I texted him to say, thanks, great job. He phoned me as soon as I had texted and we had a chat. A bit of a laugh and he said he didnt know how to text.

I texted him a week later and said a friend wanted help in her garden, could I pass on his details. He phoned straight away again and we chatted and laughed for about an hour. However, I was a bit pissed.

Then he said "when are we gonna get together then?"

I said "oh I have a busy w/e with the kids but could do Monday"

He said, "great".

BUT - I am a size 22-24. I used to be a trim-ish 16 (slimmish but big tits) then I had a horrific break up and went mental and stayed indoors and ate and drank for Great Britain. I haven't had sex in 5 years.

I don't think I can go on a date with him. It might go fine, then what? I can't take my clothes off.

just read this thread and i want to say how lovely it is to see that all of the posters have been so positive in their replies, i can identify with the OP as i am now single and bigger than i would like to be, and i have all the same niggling worries that she has expressed, and so its been great to see such support for her, made my day, to OP hope you feel better soon and and good luck you sound like a really nice person, have fun!!

Susiedaisy - you are right, everyone has been so nice, I want to date all of you instead!

I saw him today, but I was with my Dad, and Dad was on the move and being awkward. He chatted to my Dad more or less and I kept on moving. BUT, he could have called when I was sick and said - "hey, how's the cold?"

He didn't, I do need my garden doing again so will book him again for that so there is no fear of "losing face".

Whatever, you have more success than me! I am size 8/10 but have had no interest from any men for many a long year. Bust is as flat as a boy's - plenty of guys have bigger boobs than me. Good luck - if it's not the gardener, you'll find someone else.

wotabouttheworkers - I would give anything to have a flat chest! I bet you look great.

All I can say is if you want to do something about changing your body, you have to do it for you, when you are ready.

I managed to lose 4 1/2 stone through slimming world over the course of 8 months, going from a 22 to a 12 / 14 and I am the same height as you. Yes I gained in confidence, because I did something positive for me and getting out of the house for that hour or so a week also gets you back into meeting new people who take an interest in you.