Am quite newly separated from husband and have two small children... we split months ago but he only recently moved out. Still finding out feet with this arrangement/seeing kids etc but so far it's been pretty amicable (with the occasional argument).
Most nights he comes here straight from work, puts kids to bed and then goes to his house and tonight was the same but he tinkered about on my computer for a bit before doing the bedtime routine... he often looks at torrent websites that you can basically illegally download stuff from and in the past I've had a problem with this, mainly because some of the adverts are a bit dodgy (not out and out porn but chatlines etc) and I don't like it being looked at while the kids are about...anyway he was looking at the website then must have closed it down and done kids.
When he was getting ready to go I was on the computer and noticed a pop up 'fuck buddies', ad which had obviously been generated by the torrent website, I asked him again not to look at it on my computer in case this kind of thing happened again... he then denied that the website could have done this and it must have been something dodgy I was looking at. Bollocks, so I showed him the internet history and you could clearly see it popped up when looking at this website and again asked could he not look at it here. he then stood in front of me and started intensely at me saying 'i hate you. i fucking hate you'. not loudly but in a very hateful tone. i honestly freaked out and said i wanted him out the house and if he didn't leave i'd call the police.... he changed his tune pretty sharpish when i said he had freaked me out, saying he hadn't meant to but I felt like he was trying to intimidate me and i felt vulnerable... I didn't call the police but he did leave but he has keys for the house, which I asked him to give back as he left and he ignored me.
I'm working all weekend and he's supposed to be looking after the kids in my house (his new place is house share) and I told him not to come, I'd take the weekend off and make other arrangements.
Did i do the right thing? what the hell am I going to do now? We have no family and rely heavily on each other. he's never been physically aggressive (although has chucked stuff about a couple of times during an argument but in 13 years, i've probably done that too a few times) but has been verbally intimidating before although he denies that was his intention.
FUCK.