arghhhhh
I am feeling really frustrated and controlled by 'D'h at the moment...
basically we have a conversation and discuss something for months, then I go and do what we discussed and 'tada!' show/tell DH and he suddenly decides we hadn't agreed that and I was out of order doing it without consulting him etc... and we end up in Huge arguments!
the 1st incident was our bedroom. When we moved we had dd in with us and so the bed had to go against the wall, dd has been in her room 6-8 months now and we had chats about making the bedroom nicer, less bedsitty etc and that included moving the bed to a more conventional position.... and I bought a new duvet set, showed him and he liked it etc etc... then I spent 2-3 hours rearranging the bedroom and giving it a good clean only for him to come home and moan that I had done it without consulting him, that I know he lies sleeping against the wall etc and moaned for hours ending up with me getting out of the bed at midnight to put the bloody thing back as it was!
the 2nd incident was today... again for about 3 months we have been discussing taking the kids on a cheapish caravan type holiday... we agreed the week and a budget and that it needed to be by a beach and with some facilities on site and that it should be 7 nights to make it worth while (he insisted on this) He wouldnt say where it had to be but kept saying i should just find somewhere nice, and even once suggested I keep it a secret from him until the day we go as a suprise! he's been nagging me to book it so today I found a 7 night hol in our budget and booked it... big mistake! again he moaned at the location, the number of nights etc and said I was out of order again! I have managed to swap it for a 4 night stay elsewhere now but its doing my head in!
finally, today ds asked if he and a friend could go back to ours after school (he has done this before with a different friend) and although i am at work it means he is alone for about an hour and a half (he's almost 12), I said yes and gave the usual warnings but dh now says I should have consulted with him on this too!!!
what can I do????