xh is he a scrooge?

[davidsotherhalf]

my ds phoned me last night, he had been to meet his brother to support him with relationship problems, he missed the bus home sunday night as he hadn't realised his last bus was 6pm. ds phoned his dad to see if he could stay at his house for the night,(my xh) his dad allowed him to stay over, when ds was ready to leave they gave him an itemised bill and demanded he paid straight away.
sarni and cup of tea £6
glass of juice £2
bed for the night £30
2 slices of toast £3
cup of tea £2
anyone else got a scrooge as dh/dp/xh ?
both xh and his wife have very good paying jobs.

at one point i sent evidence of dd bruises, she called police herself, i was told this is called parenting, thats how to parent a child with sn,

No way

No way did the police say that is how you parent a child with sn

that is exactly what was said by the police,

and double Well in that case then you need to make a formal complaint to the Police Complaints Commission

You say that your ex wasn't like this until you got married. Was he violent after getting married, or after having your first child? But on that point again, do you have 1 child or 3?

Agree with SGM. I had a little look at past posts davidsotherhalf, and you have had a terrible time with lots of "authorities" letting you down consistently. WA should be able to help you deal with the various agencies.

Good Luck!

i have 3 grown up sons and a dd, and he started getting violent when i was pregnant with ds1, i tried to leave but he made me feel worthless wouldn't let me have money, was only allowed out if he was with me, he was a control freak, he made so many threats on my life i was scared, ie waking up in the night with knife at my throat, him saying i could slit your throat and get away with it by saying i did it in my sleep! setting fire at the bottom of stairs when kids where in bed, chasing me with an axe and it just missed my head, made hole in bedroom wall. seen him pretending to play cricket with few dc, and swing at childs head knocking him to the ground, he told child he stepped back while he was practising his swing, lots more like this

davidsotherhalf - what you describe in your last post is like something from a horror film!

Good for you for finding the strength to leave.

I will be completely honest and say that I know nothing about special needs, and I don't know in particular what special needs your children have, but it sounds to me as if they may need even more help, as they may not be able to sense that his behaviour is out of order.

He sounds like a man who has played on the vulnerability of you and your dc, and it is terribly sad that you have been unable to get any help from the authorities.

Please do what the others have suggested and contact womens aid. Some sort of an order needs to be put in place to prevent him from coming near you or your dcs.

When you say he and his dp work with children, what is it that they actually do?

You MUST insist that your Ds2 comes home and lives with you. With ASD he is incredibly vulnerable to people like his sperm donor father, and will just do as he is told to avoid confrontation.

This is not scrooginess, this is obtaining money with threats towards a vulnerable adult. It's illegal. Your son needs a social worker because with his diagnosis there is help out there for him, and you need support to escape this fucker's clutches.

The comment about marching him to the cashpoint to get the money out made me feel so sad.

You wouldn't do that to a stranger who owed you money, never mind your son/stepson.

Very .

I would definitely go to the Police Complaints Commision about this...any officer who has said what you say they have is likely to face disciplinary action. Have you (or your local police) heard of Fiona Pilkington? The officers who failed her and her daughter so spectacularly are likely to lose their jobs, and her poor son is likely to be paid a huge amount of compensation...you need to help your DD make a complaint, today. This can't be ignored any more.

ens he is a coach driver he transports children to and from school, etc she works in schools teaching sport to children age 5-19 she travels around different schools

I hope your son told him to fuck off.