Posted about this before and I am trying but I feel so worn down by this.
Basically my DH moans and groans his way through life. It's especially bad at the weekends. It is the same script every weekend.
"I'm tired, I've got a headache, I need a nap."
He doesn't want to do anything, go anywhere or join in. I feel like a single parent. It really drags me down. I wish he would move out at times. I don't want a divorce. I love him and he is a good, honest person who used to make me laugh and inspire me.
Now he is like a human black hole.
He is NOT depressed. We have gone down that route. He is a builder and manages lots of projects, clients and sub-contractors quite easily. Although there is a lot of drama. Every day there is a new crisis (a batch of roof tiles has a fault - cue weeping and wailing). But he always sorts it out. It is when he gets home, he feels entitled to give up and lie on the couch.
I am ignoring him as much as I can, NOT asking him how he is feeling or making constructive comments. "Why don't you take an aspirin, then?" I go out without him. But I feel it is making me tired and depressed being around him.