DH contacting ex gf

[memoriesindeed]

by email telling her hes been thinking of her and how is she wtf!!!!!! then subsequent email telling her how unhappy he is in his marriage. how disrespectful to me and our dcs im furious!

That's disgraceful! He should be speaking to YOU if he's not happy, not trying to get some sympathy from an old flame! Hope you're gonna kick his arse!

Hope you show him how happy he can be alone.

No wonder. My unhelpful response to him would be "Fuck off back to her if you're so miserable."

tell him to be careful what he wishes for

then show him the door

what a twat

You poor lady! You deserve so much more x

How on earth did you find out about this?

Shameful. How treacherous! Poor you love!

Open door. Toe up his behind. Close (and bolt) door.

maybe he's laying a trap to find out whether you are reading his email?
perhaps he's unhappy because he knows you are reading his email?

we're always up and down for a variety of reasons and he has done something like this before we married ie complained about me and all my personal details. he doesnt know i know and has changed his password ... kinda stumped im sure more has been exchanged

Perhaps that is so, SH

my advice remains the same though

SH, pretty twisted logic there but even so he's still a twat. He could have sent himself an email saying "I can see you", which she'd have seen.

well he's either bored and horny, in need of an ego boost or needs someone to talk to. i chat to an ex of mine sometimes about my marriage and he chats to me about his relationship - its all very innocent.

which bothers you more - the fact he's talking aobut your reltionship or the fact he's talking to an ex?

The fact he's telling the ex he is unhappy tells it all. He is trying to reel her in.

no its not a trap its for real, its quite pathetic he had to blurt it out to this person - you can imagine her thought - oh so now you regret finishing with me! so pathetic! i actually relayed a post from here which involved facebook messages to exes and the break up of a marriage and guess what he changed his password. i couldnt really care about her its all about him and the total lack of respect for me. its pretty hardcore

sungirltan its the fact he sought her out and then asked her how she was and then straight off about the marriage ugh! so disrespectful IMO - it may be innocent to you but i feel its really inappropriate to discuss your partner with someone you date last and whom you havent had any contact with for years its almost like saying in code wish i hadnt finished with you and i wouldnt have married this one!

oh crikey - fair enough - i would be quite horrified too. i just wondered as i have been in contact with my ex continually since splitting 9 years ago and dh knows - its clearly not like that with you guys!

no not the same

Memories What are you going to do?

dont know

Have you talked to him about this?

not yet

There's your first step. His reaction will be interesting. Anything other than a full disclosure, humble apology and complete, honest, explanation of the reasons behind his betrayal of you and your family is unacceptable.

thanks yes i know just disappointed had enough of this type of shite

Unacceptable, incredibly disrespectful to you and your DCs.

What's wrong in your marriage and do you think there is anything left worth mending? If not, get on with sorting out your rights and legal position WRT separating. If you think that it could be sorted out, then take steps to do that - but please note it's only fixable if he is willing to make an effort, go to Relate, discuss his concerns with you, listen to your concerns etc/ It's not possible to fix a marriage if only one person is trying to make changes.

memories, I hope you're ok. You must feel so let down.