DH contacting ex gf

[memoriesindeed]

by email telling her hes been thinking of her and how is she wtf!!!!!! then subsequent email telling her how unhappy he is in his marriage. how disrespectful to me and our dcs im furious!

so when presented with what i knew his immortal words were - well i contact a lot of people - end of. ive seen him do this before. avoidance is what he does best. i no longer want to be married to him, nor believe a word he says

Do you have dcs? His response to you is dismissive and I'm not sure he's willing to work with you on the problems. If feels like he has checked out of the marriage emotionally, which is awful place for you to be in.

I do feel contacting an ex and sharing details of your current relationship is unhelpful - a term used here - Is the person a friend to the marriage i.e telling you to talk to your partner rather than complain to an outside party.

It feels like this is pre affair behaviour and he's building the reasons why he had to have an affair!!

no not a friend the marriage at all - someone he sought out - its not her i have a problem its the immaturity. this has been going on a while though, the immaturity! ive known for a while i made a huge error of judgement in marrying him. he has done something like this before and i let it go but not this time. again, it was the reaction to him knowing i knew also. total total kid, teenager response. totally had enough and ive mentally, emotionally checked out too. i feel so much happier in general when hes not around. someone else is welcome to him hes got a lot of growing up to do

aside from all this he just doesnt work for me as a partner in general, hes always put himself and his needs first. you know his ambitions come first, his need for sleep his his his. i dont enjoy parenting with him either, he chooses when he wants to get involved and when he doesnt. So on the whole i already feel single. Ive been living a single life for a LONG time

memories - i am sad for you- nothing like thinking that u married the wrong person. Do you have children together?

Memories I really feel for you, I really do. At least you know now and you act on it. The hurt, disregard and lack of respect is hard to take.

My ex reconnected with an exgf on facebook, think they were going out for a week years ago. Anyway, I didn't know anything about it, so you're lucky you have the knowledge. He up and left us in January (we have a dd) and he is now marrying his "reconnected new" girlfriend later this year. Unfortunately, he has washed his hands of his dd.

Like your dh he also put his own needs first, never his dd and certainly never me.

You have the power of knowledge, so my advise would be to use it!

Best of luck and I hope all works out for you.

thanks newhorizon so sorry to hear what youve been through hope youre doing ok, unbelievable the selfishness

I am really sorry he has pushed you to this point

I think you are maiking the right decision though, if you do end your marriage