What would you think?

[WillIEverBeASizeTen]

Second date and you go to the guys home for dinner...in the lounge there is a photo of him and his wife (separated around 9 months) red flag?

[BooyHoo]

just to add, i am over the relationship i had with my EX. but i now have a new relationship with him and anyone new who wishes to be in my life will have the intelligence to get their head around that and see that it is a logical position to be in with the other parent of your children.

[truthtalking]

Wow Lucky Escape how dare they, are the people on here serious? This is a site for helpful opinions and advice not somewhere women come to be put down and judged!

Unless you know the full story i do not think you can comment how you have.

2nd date at his house? strange i think not, we are not living in the 60's, times moved on, dating at a blokes houses does not mean its sleazy!

2nd date 3rd date 4th date 2 years down the line, when is the right time to ask questions? Why let things that bother you wait. If your like me i say what is on my mind! Maybe some of the less educated people on here may like to waste time on men, however i do not have time to waste on men who are still in love with ex's.

I believe your right red flag, (i'm not sure it would be coming out of your head though)

If i was dating a bloke, even on the first date and i went to his house to find a picture of his wife and him cuddling at a event, i would be shocked as well as completely put off, some women are more excepting than others, but i would feel uncomfortable with the fact he needs the picture in his front room.
Just because she may be a big part of his life doesn't mean he needs pictures of her plastered across the walls. Do you really need pictures of your ex's to prove/show there a part of your life? And if you WANT a picture of you and your ex sitting on the side you still have feelings for the women/man, especially after a sore break up like cheating!

I think the guy is weird, his wife cheats on him he keeps a picture of her and him on the side,(this isn't the same as them and the kids) he obviously is incredibly hurt and his pride punctured i would steer clear. Men like this usually come with many other issues/problems.

Unlike the rude people i would say YOU have had a lucky escape!

Don't take the negative comments to heart some of the women on here don't think before they post offensive messages. We are all here for the same reason, for advice, if you disagree there is something called constructive criticism not complete time wasting comments.

Some people are so disrespectful.

[lubeybooby]

I have a picture that has me and my dd's dad in it, I've always had it up since before the split... it does have 5 other members of my family and dd in it though.

I wouldn't call it a red flag if the rest of how he is, is ok.

[truthtalking]

Yes a family picture is completely different. acceptable and i can see how its good for the children

He may as well have a wedding photo of the two of them on the side, would that be so different? Or would people think that was normal when your dating a divroced guy?

[SpringchickenGoldBrass]

As it was only the second date, you were pushing your luck a bit to complain about a photo of his DC's other parent being in the house.

[buzzsore]

I didn't think second date at his house was 'sleazy', truthtalking, I thought it might be unsafe, (if she hadn't known him before).

Not to mention cheap and a bit dull.

[truthtalking]

Buzz you sound dull! Do you still have your parents taking you to dates! Bless!

[SpringchickenGoldBrass]

There is nothing wrong with going to someone's house and having sex with them on the second date - doing it on the first date when you only know about the person via online dating is regarded as a bit risky: online daters are advised to make the first meeting in a public place etc.

[buzzsore]

Dull really ? That I'd rather go to a gig or pub or restaurant or cinema or even a hoe-down for a date, than round some guy's house to stare at the photos on his wall ?

Ymmv.

[WillIEverBeASizeTen]

Truthtalking Thank you so much for your post. You are completely correct when you say that some people on here are rude/arrogant/disrespectful etc..

I see it all the time on here but the first time I have been on the receiving end. I think, apart from the sheer ignorance on their parts, it normally means the subject has struck a chord. However, it's good to get opinions from others, makes you realise how normal you are

[buzzsore]

[WillIEverBeASizeTen]

Buzz Didn't think your particular comment was sleazy, or rude/disrespectful. It's amazing sometimes how these threads get out of proportion

However, it was a cheap date, he was as tight as a ducks arse no pool or tennis courts there then...

[BooyHoo]

"Just because she may be a big part of his life doesn't mean he needs pictures of her plastered across the walls. Do you really need pictures of your ex's to prove/show there a part of your life? And if you WANT a picture of you and your ex sitting on the side you still have feelings for the women/man,"


wow, what an open minded attitude!!

1. he had A picture. not pictures plastered all over the walls. why do people feel the need to distort facts in order back up their opinion? is it because they cant logically back up their comments based on the ACTUAL facts?
   
   2)no, i dont have pictures of anyone in my house to prove anything. i have pictures of the people i love and hold dear in my home, because it is MY HOME and i like to be reminded daily that i have a family (and yes my ex is part of that family-blood isn't the only family we can have) who love me. my neighbour visits me daily. apart from that i rarely have visitors so if i wanted to prove i was over a relationship, putting pictures of my ex in my house would be teh least effective way to go about it.