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WHY do men do this?

81 replies

forsure · 10/05/2011 07:26

I was online dating a while back and at one point was talking to this man who while he seemed very nice was a bit over keen with the texts and i backed off.
Fast forward a year and i restarted online dating and he messaged me. We had a bit of a natter via the site and he seemed much more chilled out. So we swapped numbers again and have been having text conversations for about 3 days.

Nice normal, getting to know you type stuff.

Until last night.

Texts got a bit innuendo like, fine, it was fun and flirty. Then, bam! cock picture sent to my phone. There had been no talk to cocks. Or of pictures. Indeed he had sent no pictures at all.
He started asking for one of me, i kept saying no, i was not going to send pics of me like that to somone i hadnt met. He would say thats fine i dont have to do anything i dont want to, but two seonds later i would get another text telling me to ' come on, send a pic, i want to wank over you'

nice Hmm

Then i got a recorded voice file in which i could clearly him him wanking talking in great detail what he wanted to do to me.

I am not impressed. In fact i feel a bit depressed about it.
WHY!!!!

( clearly im not going to meet up with him now) But i just dont get why on earth men do this?

OP posts:
AnyFucker · 10/05/2011 22:55

Each to their own, I suppose

it only bothers me, tbh, if people are being deceived or being coerced

otherwise the dirty buggers can just get on with it Smile

not my cuppa tea though, seems sorta pathetic to me but ho-hum, I have got into awful trouble for that viewpoint before (as googling AnyFucker will attest to Smile )

bettiboo · 10/05/2011 22:57

I'm off to google AnyFucker. laters.......

bettiboo · 10/05/2011 22:58

OMG you're famous AnyFucker. I had no idea. I'm privileged and a bit jealous. Envy

AnyFucker · 10/05/2011 23:00

Famous ?

nah

just a MN addict prolific poster Smile

extraconfusedhelp · 10/05/2011 23:01

OMG what a looser, thats why he did it coz he is strange and sad and a looser....

tallwivglasses · 10/05/2011 23:18

I am shocked that its par for the course for teenage boys to send willy photos. Mothers - do you know what your boys are doing right now???

I've lived a sheltered life. The only porn I ever saw was when my computer got a virus (thanks to ex dp) and I'd be greeted by a big bumhole every time I switched it on in the morning. Put me right off my cheerios.

AnyFucker · 10/05/2011 23:21

Grin @ cheerios

those cheery litle holes !

sorry

tallwivglasses · 11/05/2011 07:30

Arf Grin

FreudianSlipOnACrown · 11/05/2011 08:29

My friend had a brief fling in college with a really tall skinny guy, he was a right charmer but in the end treated her like dirt. He'd sent her loads of naked photos while they were together, and though his Wang was reeeeeally long, it was also very thin, and didn't make much impact iyswim.

So after he dumped her I took great delight in singing (out of his earshot, because I'm a wimp) "uh-oh, spaghetti-O" every time he approached us.

ApplesinmyPocket · 11/05/2011 09:17

They probably do it partily because us modern women insist we are 'visual creatures just like men' and the poor chappies believe us and think/hope we will get all hot and bothered to see their tackle in all its, errr, glory.

LifeMovesOn · 11/05/2011 09:28

I had one of these too (not the phone wank message though thank god) - it really made me laugh since he was allegedly a senior member of the police force, so I quoted him the Misuse of Telecommunications Act........ then told him to fuck off.

I remember opening the message up and seeing a photo, thinking "oh it looks like a willy [turning my phone around to get a better view] - AH, it IS a willy!!"

No, I'm sure online dating guys aren't all like this, thank god. I've met a couple of very nice ones.

The one I'm seeing now is lovely - wouldn't mind getting a photo from him (joking - before you flame me!!) Grin

Gay40 · 11/05/2011 18:07

What about "Thanks for that. It looks like a cock, only much smaller."

AnyFucker · 11/05/2011 18:11

good 'un, gay Smile

sorky · 11/05/2011 18:44

Or perhaps
'go to docs, you have knob cheese'
Grin

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 11/05/2011 18:51

Dare you to post the cock pic to fb, and then tag him. All of his contacts will see it. We can come up with some helpful captions.

LaurieFairyCake · 11/05/2011 18:56

Stories like this make me wish I was single for one reason - just so I could text back

"Oh Sad, I really liked you til I saw you had such a small cock"

and then never text again

Gay40 · 11/05/2011 22:35

I have to say that I have rarely heard of lesbians sending pictures of their body parts to prospective suitors. Which is not to say it never happens, just that I've rarely heard of it.
They more often send evidence of some psychosis.

ShoutyHamster · 11/05/2011 23:18

'What was that you just sent me- a picture of a rolled- up blanket?!'

'Hey no baby - that was my COCK. Hey yeah now that's got you going eh baby hnurgh hnurgh'

'No really-what was it? Ever such an odd shot. Was it a bit of the dog sideways? Or some socks in a bundle or something. It didn't look at all like a cock, no. Was it the right picture you sent?'

Etc. etc.

So much fun to be had at the expense of the idiot cockstrutters Grin

SpringchickenGoldBrass · 11/05/2011 23:59

Or 'That reminds me, it's really hard to find a chicken with the giblets in these days, but nothing makes the gravy taste right without them...'

AnyFucker · 12/05/2011 00:04

christ almighty, my mother used to boil the chicken giblets in a pan every saturday for hours

it stunk the house out !

< boak >

SpeedyGonzalez · 12/05/2011 00:12

Rofl at Gay40!

This man is a moron. Your OP should read: "Why do morons do this?"

What a grim convo for you, though, yuk.

tallwivglasses · 12/05/2011 00:20

Was it Silvia Plath who was reminded of turkey giblets when she saw her first cock?

One of her rare comedic moments (and an image that stayed with me as a sensitive teenager...)

Anniegetyourgun · 12/05/2011 08:51

Notwithstanding my comments above, it wouldn't be entirely honest to imply I'd never received a, er, risqué picture, even with my strictly limited love life; but a gentleman asks first. (And takes no, or not just yet, as an answer, obviously!)

Gay40 · 12/05/2011 13:46

To be honest, Sylvia Plath ended up putting her head in a gas oven, so she couldn't have been that impressed by them.

TechLovingDad · 12/05/2011 15:43

Annie, how would one ask? "Would one, perchance, like to happen upon some photographic evidence of one's wanger?"