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would u mind ur dh chatting to women on internet

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mopsera · 02/05/2011 18:35

or not?...if he is pretending to be single so that they talk to him ( he says they wont chat otherwise ) or is there always a hidden agenda to look for someone 'better' ?

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FabbyChic · 02/05/2011 18:36

Yes I would mind. Why does he need to chat to women on the internet and pretend he is single?

cyb · 02/05/2011 18:36

Yes of course I would

cyb · 02/05/2011 18:37

well actually if it was Twitter or something maybe not..but on a singles site Shock But pretending to be something you are not is always dodgy

kerrymumbles · 02/05/2011 18:38

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MmeLindt · 02/05/2011 18:39

Yes, I would be upset.

Not if it were on a site like MN or Twitter, but why would he pretend to be single unless he was after some on-the-side action?

TheVisitor · 02/05/2011 18:40

yes, especially as he's pretending to be single. He's looking for a shag.

madonnawhore · 02/05/2011 18:40

Can't believe you even have to ask the question.

GypsyMoth · 02/05/2011 18:40

which website??

colditz · 02/05/2011 18:41

yes I would, if he was pretending to be single.

he's on the look out. i'd dump him if I were you.

Doha · 02/05/2011 18:43

Absolute no no
Have you asked him how he would feel if the roles were reversed

pickyourbrain · 02/05/2011 18:43

Why on earth would you need to ask if that's ok? Get rid and get yourself some counselling to restore some sufficient boundries in your life...

He vowed to be faithful to you forsaking all others so no, pretending to be single in order to attract other women is not ok. Not to mention cruel to the other women he is manipulating the reality of.

FreudianSlipper · 02/05/2011 18:45

why does he need to chat to women who only want to chat to single men

move on he is not worth your time, its you who needs to look for somene better

FreudianSlipper · 02/05/2011 18:47

not suggesting you start looking straight away, what i meant is you deserve someone who treats you better

ItsCHEEKYTime · 02/05/2011 21:45

which website?
why is he doing that? hae you asked him why he wants to talk to women in the first place?

Hassled · 02/05/2011 21:48

Jaysus - why would you tolerate this? No, there isn't always a hidden agenda and in fact in his case I suspect his agenda is there staring you in the face. He's a player.

AnyFucker · 02/05/2011 23:39

mops...what happened to you to make you think you needed to even ask this question ????

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mopsera · 03/05/2011 18:21

well, its justified by him saying he chats to women who need help; overweight / depressed etc. he goes on person.com and stuff.i think mainly its genuine I guess i have to say he doesnt have any mates really as he always falls out with ppl and most of the women he chats to are just lonely.he wont stop so i accomadate it and tbh most of the women he chats to wouldnt seriuosly be intersted i dont think. he does tell them he's with me if they push for info. i know he's did this with his ex 's so....it wont change.

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AnyFucker · 03/05/2011 18:23

is he a paid online counsellor, specialising in female problems ?

if not, he is a player and you are mug to believe his bullshit

he won't change ?

so what are you posting for, as you have already decided this is all above board Confused

GypsyMoth · 03/05/2011 18:25

person.com is a dating and webcam chat site!!Shock

TotallyUtterlyDesperate · 03/05/2011 18:34

I would mind and I think most women would, but then my DH wouldn't dream of doing that! It's not appropriate behaviour for a married man IMHO

usualsuspect · 03/05/2011 18:37

How odd

davidtennantsmistress · 03/05/2011 18:40

it would depend on the site - a dating/personals one deffo no go, a chat one wouldn't worry me overly but i'd be bothered about not telling them he was with me & likewise if he hid it from me i'd hit the roof.

so basically open honest & letting me read everything/talk to them as well so I knew it was pure friends wouldn't have too much issue, but once it went to secrets etc then i'd walk away.

SugarPasteFrog · 03/05/2011 18:41

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davidtennantsmistress · 03/05/2011 18:42

thats what I was trying to say sugar. :)