Sick and fed up of this

[Bearslikehoneyintheirtummy]

Please can I have a rant......

I am tired of being moaned at day and night by my husband ad this evening as usual he is in a 'I'm not speaking to you mood and I'm not telling you why'
So I prompt for more answers and in the end he says he is sick of the place being such a mess. This morning he got up in a fowl mood went into the kitchen and started tutting,sighing and giving me the silent treatment.
I have one 2 year old and am nearly 4 months pregnant and end up on the sofa most nights because of these moods or his snoring (not sure which is worse!) I dont usually say anything and just take it on the chin, although inside I feel almost guilty for not doing whatever it is he is moaning about.
I spend most of the day shopping for food,cleaning and tidying up and I would say our place is pretty clean. I try my best and it seems all I do is that.
I feel on edge so much of the time, I can't relax properly or sit down. I never go out and my only company here is my 2 year old. I guess I feel isolated as my family live a long way from us.
I know I am pregnant but this has been going on from long before so its not just my hormones or a temporary thing. I get the blame for everything that goes wrong or is not to his liking and Often I just feel like I am a pain in the butt to him. There is not really any love and affection anymore. He never does anything for special days and its always up to me to initiate any celebration. He has taken our daughter out about twice this year and he never has time to do stuff as a family. I never have a break from my daughter as he is always busy so it is always up to me to take her out.
How much can a woman take or how much should a woman take in when it comes to marriage. I have often contemplated the situation but have no idea how I would cope otherwise financially and without support.

Thankyou never. It makes me sad to hear things like this but God knows if I am heading down the same road. I am so glad you have regained your confidence and were able to start again. Its gives me courage too that other women can do it. Hopefully it wont take me that long though! x

Watching the news and so many people have been killed Libya/Syria. Makes all of our problems seem minimal

I know Maundy! When I was a bit younger I stayed in west Africa for a few months living in a village and that made me change my little world of problems. It makes you thankful for what you have. Its such a hard cruel world out there. I bet many of those women and children would just love to be in our situation! :(

x

Libya/Syria/Egypt and all the others are fighting for their rights, just as men and women did all those years ago for us all to have the freedom and supposed equality we have today.

I lived in Egypt, hated pretty much every second of it. As sad as it is to say, these dictatorships have been in power longer than some of us here have lived, so they are not going to go without a fight.

I saw the population as an abused victim, well past the point when they could find the strength to escape, I saw them as hostages, all suffering from Stockholm Syndrome, they could't see it, they couldn't see how they were caged, oppressed and belittled. I despaired at times. As for Female rights... well you can only imagine! I was absolutely GOBSMACKED when the Egyptians rose up, i never, ever thought they could do it, but they did, and STILL are! It's the first time they have done anything I can honestly admire them for.

The blood on these countries respective despots hands is unknown but plentiful, the blood being shed now by the citizens is desperately tragic but absolutely necessary, there is no way through for them without it, they won't be taken seriously without it sadly. It will however be worth it in the end. they can't give up now.

Another thing is to understand that there is a very different view of death in these countries.

Itsnevertoolate: My goodness, how inspiring your post! For you to be in such a truly awful situation and to be able to get out and recover so much in such a comparatively short time! My GOD that gives me so much hope! Thank you!

I often wondered why when X was in the kitchen while I was cooking, things would go wrong, it was my nerves! The pressure was immense, he was a chef.

herhissyness - that is so true and sheds a totally different understanding on it. Its interesting what you say about Egypt because I thought it was fairly liberal in some parts but obviously not. Saying that I don't really know much about it tbh!
Picking up on the nerves thing, yes it feels like treading on eggshells all the time, although I havent yet reached the point you got to I know what you mean. My father used to be similar and we were all scared of him if he got angry and I think sometimes once you have learnt to live like that it is very hard to get out of it. Its like that woman in Mrs bouquet 9her next door neighbour) who gets so nervouse she drops her cups etc lol.

Egypt IS fairly liberal in comparison to some countries around there, but don't forget I was also living under a tyrant in a country where most of the men are also tyrants in their own homes.

Many women had more freedom there than I did.

PLEASE don't put up with this crap Bears. Tell him to stop tutting or to do something about it. My only regret in life is that I put up with it for as long as I did.