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Are we just friends?

79 replies

Julia83 · 18/04/2011 14:10

Hi all, I've lurked for yonks here, but I've really not sure what to do now.

I've met this really hot guy, and we've known each other for a couple of years. We get on really well, he gets on great with Georgia (my little girl, she's 2 now) and we have fun.

The thing is, I don't know if he's interested or not? He's well off, he buys me presents, he always compliments me, tells me how good I look (and I love this as I didn't feel good after Steve left while I was pregnant) but he's never made a move.

What do you think? He seems an alright bloke?

tinyurl.com/3j9vqce

Am I wasting my time with him, or could there be something between us? I don't want a quick fling, I want a long term thing you know.

All help gratefully received :)

Julia

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monahue · 18/04/2011 14:11

Eh? I don't get it.

MilkandWine · 18/04/2011 14:13

I'm not getting this one either Monahue, is it troll time? Plus my eyes are now burning from that picture!

KnickersOnOnesHead · 18/04/2011 14:14

How dare you post a picture of my DH!

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Julia83 · 18/04/2011 14:15

Hi Milkandwine.

Perhaps I should add, I met him in Rome when I went on holiday there last year. I was in this fantastic Pizzeria, and he came across to me and started talking.

It was like we'd known each other for yearsWine

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EggyFucker · 18/04/2011 14:19

yes, we can tell by that bloke's fat belly and fetching thong that he is a wonderful bloke and you should spend the rest of your life with him

MilkandWine · 18/04/2011 14:21

I think it is the mass of untrimmed pubes curling over his thong that would have clinched the deal for me EggyFucker!

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Julia83 · 18/04/2011 14:23

EggyFucker, that's not very nice :(

It's not all about the physical side, there's an emotional connection there, do you know what I mean?

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EggyFucker · 18/04/2011 14:24

yes, I can see the emotional connection there...his droopy ass makes me feel all regretful for him Grin

EggyFucker · 18/04/2011 14:25

does this sex god realise you are posting pics of him ? Wink

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Julia83 · 18/04/2011 14:26

I thought it would help you understand my dilemma.

He's not shy, he's always very outgoing, it's what I love about him.

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EggyFucker · 18/04/2011 14:27

nope, he ain't shy

bemybebe · 18/04/2011 14:29

I haven't laughed like that for a loooong time! Now that I stopped to wipe tears off my eyes, I would like thank you Julia!! Grin

cabbageroses · 18/04/2011 14:29

Well the pic really helps us. Grin
I think you should forget him. If he hasn't made a move in 2 years he is not interested in you excpet as a friend.

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Julia83 · 18/04/2011 14:30

He's charming, he's a gentleman, he's fun.

That counts for a lot for me. Steve let me down a lot when he left, I really worried what I'd do with myself. Reading you on the forum helped me then, I hope you can help me now :)

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Julia83 · 18/04/2011 14:32

Thanks cabbageroses, even though it's not what I want to hear :(

He's very outgoing, but behind there he's very tender, very fragile. I wonder if he's afraid of me rejecting him? That's what I hope, anyway.

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cabbageroses · 18/04/2011 14:35

Juliet- who is Steve?
Look, you are coming over as a troll- for all we know you could be the guy in the pics.

if you have been lurking you must know that it is not really done to post pics of your "man"- what would he thin?

We have tried to help- the asnwer is that if he has not tried to make your association anything but friends, he is not likely to.

he alsolooks quite old- 50s? 60s?
How old are you?

EggyFucker · 18/04/2011 14:37

thin ?

he ain't thin

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Julia83 · 18/04/2011 14:39

Hi cabbageroses.

No that's not me! Why would I do that!

Steve is my ex, I thought I'd said before? Steve isn't his real name though.

Sorry about not following rules, I wasn't really thinking. Sometimes though, I feel a picture can tell a thousand stories better than any words, don't you think?

He is quite old, he's in his 50s and I'm 28, but age never mattered to me really. It's a spiritual thing between people, I find. Some people there's just that... spark you don't get with others, it's something that clicks from the beginning.

I know it's not likely anything will happen, but I was low when I met him, so I wonder if he was just trying to be a friend, kind sweet man that he is.

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Julia83 · 18/04/2011 14:40

I'm sure he wouldn't mind his picture here, also :)

He always laughs, he always poses for pictures for strangers, he likes to smile :)

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cabbageroses · 18/04/2011 14:46

juliet- you are a fruit cake Smile

what on earth do you think we can tell you by looking at apic of an old-ish man in a posing pouch.???????????

he is just a friend.

if he wanted to be your lover he would have told or asked by now- he is old enough to know what to do.

sorry.

EggyFucker · 18/04/2011 14:46

Mills and Boon must have mislaid one of their authors, methinks

cabbageroses · 18/04/2011 14:47

p.s- he is not an alright bloke- he needs to lose 2 stones and tone up.

yuck.

shinydiscoball · 18/04/2011 14:47

I'd never normally yell "troll", however the link to your picture clearly displays the logo of Italian magazine Diva e donna - either a) your "hot guy" is famous enough to be papped or b) you're full of shit.

Which is it?

cabbageroses · 18/04/2011 14:48

well, it is the easter hols EF- maybe it's a teenage lad using pics of his dad.

TheOriginalFAB · 18/04/2011 14:48

I so wish I had read the thread before clicking on the photo.