So sounds like he's doing a bit of internet dating or met some woman on a chat forum (hence having a photo already before he's met her). And before he's even met her he's told you how much he likes her and he'll phone you to update you how the first date went. So you're left distraught, knowing when he's going on the date, waiting by the phone etc......
Well fuck that for a game of soldiers as my mother (who rarely swears) would say!
You really do need to find your independence and assert it loud and clear so that he knows that you have no NEED for him either practically or emotionally.
Practically - check out car pool/lift sharing websites (links below) and see if there is someone who might want some petrol money and some eco brownie points for a lift to work, or ask around at work and see if you can come to some arrangement where you can be en route for a colleague to pick you up and share petrol with.
www.freewheelers.co.uk/
carshare.liftshare.com/default.asp
www.rideshare.co.uk/?gclid=CLb-ltHjoagCFcoa4Qod1mc2HQ
(do follow regular safety advice and be safe!)
Shopping - can you do your shopping weekly online so you only need to buy fresh fruit and veg and the less heavy stuff as and when you need it?
That way any money you can save on not getting taxis you can plough into learning how to drive yourself if you want to.
Emotionally - He's playing a game. Don't engage. Sort out your practical stuff above ASAP, write down his number on a piece of paper and put it somewhere you cannot access easily (one of those piggybanks you have to smash to get into? just in case you do need it in future - I am assuming you don't have DCs so I am not sure what kind of emergency that would be but definitely NOT the itchy text finger had too much wine it's 11 pm I need to speak to him kind of emergency!) and then DELETE it from your phone.
What's the best reply to when he calls to tell you he may or may not be starting a relationship? The best reply is no reply. Just don't answer. If you need to, make it into a game for yourself (a test of willpower game, not the mindfuck game that he has set up for you) and see how many times he will ring/text/leave a voicemail with no response from you.
This bit tells you everything: "he also told me if i go dating i will take my time ist" - so now he gets to tell you how you run your lovelife. None of his beeswax. Ironically, I agree with him only in the sense that it sounds like your self-esteem/self-confidence is at a low ebb and that is not a good time to be dating, mainly because it makes you vulnerable to getting into a relationship with someone who will exploit that. You need to work on feeling good about yourself before you head onto the dating scene - but that time will come. But still, not his place to be telling you what you should and shouldn't be doing.
So how about having a think about things you want to do in your life? New job? Train for a new career? Fun classes (exercise/photography/creative writing - just new things that you will meet new people at and have new experiences). Are there things you used to do/people you used to see that you have let slide while you were with him? Can you pick up on these again and reconnect with old friends. The only question should be whether doing something or seeing someone is making you feel good about yourself, and if it is not, move on to trying something else new. Also quite a few adult education colleges do courses on assertiveness/self-esteem so it might be worth seeing if you would want to do something like that. Basically, make a plan for YOUR future and get excited! You have so much to look forward to, one of which may be a new relationship when you are ready - all the time you are wasting thinking about him could be spent on getting on with your new life, keep posting to keep your will-power strong and update on how you're tackling things - people are v helpful on here (and many more knowledgeable people than me will be along shortly!) xxx