my ex told me he is dating a woman he really really likes

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my ex told me he is dating a woman he really really like .but want us to remain freinds . he is still very much in contact with me as he give me a lift to and from work and also shopping as i dont drive .he told me if they are going to start a relationship with this woman then he will no longer help me .the woman lives in a different city .but me and my ex lives in the same town. he will have his ist date with this woman tomorrow and he hopes they will get well alright . i am not sure what he wants me to do ..why he is telling me all these ? IS HE REALLY FRIENDLY OR WHAT .he also told me if i go dating i will take my time ist .i am really hurt when he said he will start dating .he even showed me the photo of this woman . he told me he still love and cared for me but NOT IN LOVE WITH ME anymore .what will i do ? pls guys i need your thoughts about my situation and what will i do ???

Yes. Move on. He's your ex. Ex.

You need to become an actor. In the short term you must fake disinterest. a vague "oh?" a bland "that's nice" a pleasant "I'm really happy you've moved on, you deserve to be happy."

Stop with the lifts and the happy families routine. Taking you shopping, constant contact? You've broken up! You don't share children. There is no need for him to be in your life.

Stop being available. Stop needing him for practical things. Just get on with it all without him.

If he pulls the "we're friends" crap, then a shrug and a "no, not really. We used to date. I don't really want to turn into best mates. I'd rather we just walked away from each other."

He is trying to control you. And you are letting him.

Take your lovely kids out and celebrate the fact that you are all free of him! It's the holidays right, well the 14yo can stay up later for once!

Go out and get yourself a brand new phone with a brand spanking new number and don't give it to the fatboy!

you sound so much stronger than you did when you started this thread!

He is moving on.
He has been kind so far, in that he drives you to work and take you shopping. He was not required to do any of these things. He is treating you pretty much like he would treat an elderly relative, to be honest. You need to start relying on yourself. Learn to drive, perhaps?

yes i must admit ,you guys helps me a lot . yes we are going to have a bbq with my children this pm in our garden . true ,i am free and let this woman be his new toy to manipulate . soon she will see the real him when the thrill and excitement has fade . i dont want to know .

Gosh, having re-read, the thread. You are so well rid of him. From now on, life will be onwards and upward, wuhei!

Celebrate every day you are not with this creep! Raise a glass to your freedom!

hey guys ,i am smiling now , gosh ive so fool . all those time i never grow as a person . i was controlled .yes !!!!!!!! FREE AT LAST . I NEVER SAW I WASTED SO MUCH TIME WITH HIM ,I WAS WITH A MAN WHOS MIND IS NOT RIGHT .I WAS SO VULNERABLE WHEN WE MEET THATS WHY I FALL IN INTO HIS NET .thanks . love you all guys .been a help .o owe you all GIG TIME.

Your happiness and freedom is all we need to see! Don't beat yourself up, you made it in the end!

here's to YOU!

HI LADIES ,i did it today without a tear.

hi ,as what my ex said before he went dating ..that he will tell me the out come ..well well he text me ...he said ...ITS WAS ALRIGHT .then he mentioned about old plans of putting a television in my room ..etc . AND BEFORE YOU ASK yES .I DIDNT REPLAY . what do you think he is up to now ...?

Does it matter?

Really?

This guy is history. Ignore, ignore ignore and get a new SIM card You can get them free you know, just log onto the networks websites or search for free sims, the companies are falling over themselves to get new customers.

Don't tell him you are changing your number, just cease to exist for him. There is literally no reason on earth to ever see this loser again.

Please do this for yourself, for your DC, look at how much stronger you are even from starting this thread. Imagine what you will be like when he is finally eradicated from your life.

FWIW: what he is doing is trying to keep you on the hook as a toy, a fallback position. Him being on speaking terms (to him) means that he is apparently a decent chap cos his exes still talk to him..... We all know he's a NUTTER, you don't need him in your life, he just makes a mess in it.

well done for ignoring. Thumbs up.

hi ,i am here again .i was contacted by an organization that my ex applied and he made me his reference ,i wonder why he wants us to be freinds maybe because he needs me .sorry i told them everything .dont thnik after that they are very keen in him now .my revenge.

If that happens again, just refuse to give a reference. That is damning enough.