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He asked me for the 34p - tight?

89 replies

GivemeNovocaine · 10/04/2011 21:50

Sorry, have name-changed. Relatively new relationship, we went to the chinese last night and it was kind of pre-arranged that we'd just each buy our own. When we got there the place was really busy so I looked at what mine cost (£3.60) and gave him this amount exactly and told him to just get both to save time. He then counted it up and said "everything on the menu has gone up 30p" and stood there actually wanting the 30p. We'd agreed to buy our own but isn't it going a bit far to actually ask for the extra 30p?!

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GivemeNovocaine · 10/04/2011 22:18

I would have just given him the £4 Ingles but I only had 3 pound coins and a bit of change on me. I knew how much mine would be so didn't bother going to bank, assuming I had enough in change to cover it.

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atswimtwolengths · 10/04/2011 22:19

I think it's OUTRAGEOUS that you are expecting someone to pay for your dinner! Next thing, you'll be expecting him to buy you a drink, too!

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perfumedlife · 10/04/2011 22:21

I'm intrigued in the pre chinese conversation where you agreed you would buy your own. Was this something of a regular type discussion?

ihatecbeebies · 10/04/2011 22:21

He might have been taken aback that you gave him the exact £3.60 rather than just £4 and assumed you wanted to keep things exact for some reason?

Clarnico · 10/04/2011 22:23

Dump him.

Steal a tenner from his wallet first.

atswimtwolengths · 10/04/2011 22:23

I doubt that helped the situation, ihatecbeebies - I wouldn't give someone £3.60 in that situation, I'd give them £4 or £5. Mind you she definitely wouldn't have had change.

TragicallyHip · 10/04/2011 22:24

He sounds like a catch, reminds me of a friends boyfriend..

TragicallyHip · 10/04/2011 22:25

Taken aback? Why would she have had to give more than what the meal was??

perfumedlife · 10/04/2011 22:27

Maybe he's a lottery millionaire and is keeping it quiet! Trying to suss out the golddiggers Grin

Even so, he's welcome to it. There is nothing more of a turn off than tightness.

NonnoMum · 10/04/2011 22:27

Dump him. But let us all have the phone number of the Chinese restaurant first. £3.60 (or £3.94) is pretty good even for a kids meal...

perfumedlife · 10/04/2011 22:28

The fact he had to specificallly tell you he would buy the pub meal and then let you buy the drinks (probably more than the food) tells me he is obsessed with money. Not just tight, obsessed with it.

atswimtwolengths · 10/04/2011 22:28

It just sounds very petty on a date, perfumedlife, don't you think, to be searching for coppers?

perfumedlife · 10/04/2011 22:31

God yes atswimtwolengths! I would turn heel if a date said that to me. I cannot abide misers, a pal is saddled with one, he puts lines on the milk bottle to monitor her coffee intake.Shock

I wouldn't have seen him after the first date. I think when you invite someone out on a date, it's your place to pay, the first time.

Dozer · 10/04/2011 22:34

A friend once had a fling with a really good-looking lad, but sadly discovered that he was dull. She thought she could put up with this, but one night they were in a bar and bumped into a mutual friend. The boyfriend reminded the friend that he owed him 20p! Didn't get why the other two laughed and thought he was joking, and insisted on being repaid!

Obviously the rsp went no further!

YouaretooniceNOT · 10/04/2011 22:35

perfumedlife @ puts lines on the milk bottle - wtf???????????

Dozer · 10/04/2011 22:37

Agree with perfumed life that money is a major issue for him, goes beyond tightness. Really weird to discuss who will pay before first date and the (bargain) chinese.

Maybe he's in debt or something?

YouaretooniceNOT · 10/04/2011 22:37

wonder if your friend perfumed hides empty milk cartons under the mattress/amongst the books on the shelf lol to myself.

Celery · 10/04/2011 22:44

It sounds like he might have Aspergers, to be honest. Not necessarily mean with money, but just very anal and pernickity about things, perhaps. And I know that's a mean way to describe a person with Aspergers, but I'm married to one, and I have a ten year old son with Aspergers too, and that just sounds exactly like the kind of thing they would do, not because they are mean or tight, but just because that's the way they are. Just a thought.

I'm loathe to say run for the hills, if he does have Aspergers, but . . . it isn't easy.

perfumedlife · 10/04/2011 22:45

Sad No but she is plotting her escape from him as we speak, not fast enough for my liking. I knew he was mean first time I met him, first out the taxi, last to the bar.

Stayed with me for three days, brought a pal, I picked them up at the airport/took them back, made roast dinners and cooked breakfast each day, bought chinese the Saturday night for a break from cooking and he asked me if I wanted some money toward it. With his hand in his pocket, miles from the front door/delivery driver. Like I was going to say 'yes, try getting your hand out of your pocket, see how it feels!'

Final insult was the red reduced to a pound sticker on the dead garage flowers as a thanks.

tightwad. Hung like a mouse too, apparantly Wink

YouaretooniceNOT · 10/04/2011 23:00

LOL too much to reply atm

hmc · 10/04/2011 23:02

Does he live with his mum, no previous girlfriends?

YouaretooniceNOT · 10/04/2011 23:06

hung like a mouse pmsl!

Good luck to her..all that time with a man like that! Therapy might eb gopod for your friend perfumed.

Wish her all the best x

YouaretooniceNOT · 10/04/2011 23:08

also perfume

3 days of food is not cheap - you must have spent a fortune.

and garage flowers reduced?

wonder what made him like that?
OCD or childhood/both...

applechutney · 10/04/2011 23:16

He's quite the catch Op. Hmm

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