im finding it incredibly hard not to tell dh to ...

[cheesesarnie]

piss off and move out.
we got back from holiday yesterday-the magic of disney did nothing to him.we barely spoke.its been rubbish for years but im getting to hating stage now.being on holiday in a place that amazing with a stranger that you dont like brings it home how rubbish our relationship is and i feel sorry for dc,they must know things are bad and that its not normal.
he just asked me where car keys are.i said 'where you going?'just wondering as needed something from shops.he said 'out'.thats all i get is one word answers.i had to stop myself from telling him to piss off and find somewhere else to live because dc are sat here.

i work in a shop,i only earn £120 a week so dont think its doing on my wages!

No but a local live out nanny might be pleased to have a room in exchange for babysitting the nights you work :) Or even someone in another job.

ahh true!worth thinking about.cant imagine someone would want to feed 3 children dinner and put them to bed in exchange for a room in a noisy house though.

anyway,must dash.its ds1 birthday,so were off to the adventure farm in a bit!oh joy!much easier than a party though!its my first big day out with just the dc and me!dh started his new job today.so atleast theres a chance it'll be a happy day!

How many nights a week & what time do they go to bed? What time do you go to work/get back?

Happy Birthday DS1

I hope you all have a lovely day!! It must surely tell you a lot when your DS's birthday is better for DH going to work :(

i am shattered!twas fantastic.dd and ds1 both said (without me saying a word)that it was better without grumpy daddy.which made me sad but is very true.it was relaxed and lovely but shattering!ds1 has popped out to play before his birthday dinner and relatives coming.dh is back from work.

i work 4 nights a week at the moment,two are 5-10,then4-10 and 4-8.

20 hours a week - half with the kids in bed. When I was flatting I'd have jumped at it! Well, if I could have worked it around my hours, the only stalling point I can see here is that you start quite early so not easily compatible with working, but great for most students!! As a short term option until you can get a day job I am sure you'd find someone.

I'm glad you had a lovely, if shattering day!! :)

I think you and the kids would all benefit from you calling a day on it. They can still see him - they may even get more quality time with him in a better mood if he's not living there.