Lost my dignity

[partnerleft]

I feel such fool. , I was being so calm with my ex who has left me after the death of our son and 25years together
I was making sure every time he came round I looked good, I didn?t hassle him, we went out for 2/3 meals and on mothersday he cooked and bought me a lovely present. Each time he confirmed it was over but we would walk the dog holding hands. Evertime he left I was in pieces but was thinking he is spending more time here than with her he had even commented she was pressuring hi,
He had refused to tell me who she was and it has become an obsession.
This week it dawned on me it was a particular women he worked with (for lots of reasons) so I looked her up and facebook and still don?t know why did a friends request.
She also has a 2nd business with her address and mobile no, so I drove round and put a note through her door and phoned to hear her voice (german) to be sure and it was. She has told EP and he has gone mad, says I?m a mad stalker, need treatment stay out of his live and we will never be friends

I am so gutted I have been so stupid but I did really need to know who it was , is there any way to redeem this
xxxxx

SGB is harsh, but usually fair. [csmile]

partner, you are living for the brief flashes of nice behaviour, accidental signs that you interpret to mean that he wants this relationship. he doesn't. What's more he doesn't even deserve it!

The shorter cut to a painfree existence is to be strong right now, toss your fringe and stalk off into the distance. Vanish from his life, and erase him from yours. He really ISN'T worth all this thought, or moping over. Fake it till you make it if need be, but you have to stop the contact with him. For your own good.

Hi
i've been doing ok , i have sort of accepted it's over (no choice) i have moments of feeling ok but on the whole it's the sense of betrayal that i can't get to grips with.The lies, he even looked me in the eye and told me he was not seeing anyone else,
How coule he come on family holidays , climbe into the same bed, laugh and joke with me and all the time know he was seeing someone else.I totally trusted him and after everytinh we have been through togehter i neve though he could let me down like this. I know i have been difficult to live with and put weght on etc but to do this to me ......