How can I thank my wonderful DH??? Any ideas?

[hellomama]

I have had gastric flu since sunday. DS (15 mo) has had a burst eardrum and ear infection since saturday. DH has got up every night this week to look after us both (DS waking about 5-6 at least every night) and then getting up at 6am every morning with DS when he wakes so I can lie in and rest.

He has taken the week off work to keep DS out of my hair. He has bought me OK! magazine to read, gone to Sainsbury's every day to buy tempting treats to try and get me to eat, and has done all the tidying, housework and bathing, feeding, etc of DS. He is so great

But, how on earth do I thank him? I really feel he deserves a treat but can't think what to get him. He is so exhausted. His hobbies are all nerdy and I am not up to cooking romantic meal yet. Is a 'World's Best Dad' balloon delivered to his work a bit sad? Would a man appreciate that sort of thing? I have up to £50 to spend. Any ideas???

er, yes it was discussed last night but due to the gastric flu...

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hellomama I think the ballooon is a lovely idea
btw what a lovely dh you have

I wouldn't spend so much on having a balloon delivered. I would buy balloon, or make it, and get a babysitter (if you can) and take him out for a meal or to the pub.

I don't know what type of working environment your dh is in but I think mine would be mortified if I did that to him at work.

Perhaps you could book a babysitter for a few weeks time (when you're feeling better) for a romantic meal?

I would ship the kids off to the in-laws, order a takeaway, throw a load of quilts/blankets down on your living room floor, light some candles and get a nice vid to watch with bottle of wine. You don't have to spend a fortune to make him feel special. Have a bath prepared for him when he gets home from work too.

luky you .

Why so grateful? Surely we should all look after our families and loved ones when they need help. Would you have done any less?

but its nice to know your appreciated - it hink thats the point.

i'd go for something sexy wrap it up with a note saying please can you take this off me tonight or something - and something like a baloon from the kdis

Thanks for the replies. I know I shouldn't have to be grateful to him as such, but just as custy said, I just wanted DH to know he is appreciated. I am crap when he is ill, and probably wouldn't have been quite so kind! Also, if you look in the relationships thread section there are so many 'orrible ones out there, I just wanted to let DH know he is a gem.

So I have so far run him the bath, put candles, a flake and a cup of tea on the side for when he got in from work and am just about to make beans on toast (his request!) and we'll see how I'm feeling later about how much more generous I can be tonight

If he likes blokey nerdy things like my DP, has he got a favourite bloke film?..Star Wars, Top Gun etc, maybe treat him to his favourite film and get the popcorn and beer flowing for him.

Not at all wrong to appreciate him, it's the little things that mean so much when your Ill. Hope your feeling better soon.

Have an orchid delivered to him at work (if he works in an office)

One of those self compilation albums that you can order with all his fav tracks, with maybe just one with shared meaning??

You could also send a copy of this to my dp!!

Hellomama, you're in SE London, aren't you? I got my partner a massage (non-dodgy, in case you were wondering) for £50, and she's a fab practitioner (uses a lot of acupressure points) and is based round our way but is also mobile. He really enjoyed it and I'm getting him another for Christmas. CAT me if you want more details.

MI thanks for a great idea. We've now moved out of london to Oxford, but there is a Neals Yard Therapy rooms here so I may look into that (for myself as well!).

i wouldnt have a balloon delivered - might be nice to get one for home though.

as for the main gift I think Beety's idea is best - pay someone else to do it

Awwww how sweet. Booking time off work too, what a star!!!

My DP would want me to dress up in all the sexy gear he bought me and then give him the best BJ he had ever had followed by a good DVD and some beers - that would be a blissful night for him!!!!!

Second to that a nice sleep in together with no kids waking us up - have you got some nice in-laws?????

hellomama, if you are in Oxford, there is a fantastic massage/therapy place. It's called Eau de Vie and is on Cowley Road. I can recommend it!

pmsl @ some of these suggestion (though they're spot on, LOL). An ipod shuffle or ipod nano if he likes his music and hasn't got one, is maybe a bit pricey, but might be his cup of tea. Breakfast in bed is another good un, as is a geeky mag if he's into computers, or photography, or angling etc.

Is he a messy kind of guy ? I always find dw dealing with one of my famous piles of paper to be quite a treat, LOL.

Or get him to do it and nip under the desk to, you know, encourage him

Ooh, a massage sounds like a good idea. I want to do something for my wonderful dp too but realise that sending flowers to his work will get him labelled a wuss...there isn't a male equivalent is there?

ROFL MI!!