Hello. I hope you all don't mind me, a man, posting here with this problem. I've lurked for some time and I know there are a lot of wise women here and I thought it might be the best place for some advice.
I've been married for 4 years to a lovely woman, but in the last year I seem to have fallen out of love with her. Or more accurately, fallen out of lust. I read somewhere else on here (sorry I can't remember where) that someone had simply stopped fancying her husband - as she put it as it was like a switch turning off in her head. That's exactly it! I don't feel any sexual passion for her any more, I don't fancy her and I don't know what to do about it. There's no-one else I fancy, so it's not that.
I've talked about it with my DW and she's devestated, to put it mildly. I've mentioned moving out, but she cries and cries and I can't bear it, all I want to do and what I actually do, is put my arms around her and comfort her, but that's weird isn't it? I do care about her a lot and I worry what will happen to her - she's very important to me in a lot of ways and really the thought of divorce fills me with horror. She's a really lovely person and deserves a lot of love. I do care for her a lot, but I just don't seem to have any plain old lust!
So I think what I'm really asking is of this has happened to anyone else. Is it possible to get back a feeling which seems dead? I would very much like to feel again what I once did.