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Personal Space/Body Language ?

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milkykid · 21/03/2011 14:13

What do tou make of this body Language ?

Male; right arm around female, pint in left hand holding up towards the camera.

Female; chest turned in toward Male, head turned to face camera.

Touching or almost touching bodies.

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IngridBergmann · 21/03/2011 14:14

They are intimate imo. Why?

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milkykid · 21/03/2011 14:17

So what if you were told they are Friends.

Would you hug a male friend ?

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dittany · 21/03/2011 14:21

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TobyLerone · 21/03/2011 14:29

I'd think nothing of it. I have loads of photos of me with male friends in similar poses.

But the fact that you're asking (and have presumably gone facebook-stalking or similar) would suggest that you are suspicious.

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milkykid · 21/03/2011 14:32

Thats where it showed up on FB as her profile picture.

Just pissed me off thats all, seeing as he is my partner and all ! I wouldnt hold that stance with a male friend, well only one, who is gay....

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TobyLerone · 21/03/2011 14:34

Why?

Reality · 21/03/2011 14:34

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dittany · 21/03/2011 14:35

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lilyberry · 21/03/2011 14:40

Sounds like tipsy/drunk friends posing for a photo.

Then again, if someone was hugging my DP like that I would get equally protective/angry/I Claudius. Blush

TobyLerone · 21/03/2011 14:40

It's a picture of herself. The other person just happens to be in it. There is a picture on my profile here which is also my FB profile photo. It is of me, my boyfriend and a male friend. We are all pretty close together and I have my arms around both of them. I am not portraying myself as being in a threesome with them any more than this woman is portraying herself as being in a relationship with the OP's partner.

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milkykid · 21/03/2011 14:43

No I wasnt there. It was st paddys day, after work.
We had a row that night aswell, which took till saturday to sort out, then saturday morning I was on fb, and the profile pic was on the left hand side.

I clicked on it and was a little shocked.

I asked DP why it was there and he had no idea.

I then told him I was upset with it/him. He told her to remove it as I was ' understandably upset ' with it.

He still shouldnt be sort of hugging/protecting (stance) her.......... thats my position !

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milkykid · 21/03/2011 14:44

Toby - she is facing into him, like being protected ! Grrrr

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TobyLerone · 21/03/2011 14:44

I would be hideously embarrassed if my bf/one of his friends removed a photo because I was 'upset' with it.

TobyLerone · 21/03/2011 14:46

"facing into him, like being protected"

Have you never been out with a bunch of people having a drink and someone points a camera at you and the person next to you quickly grabs you to pull you in to the shot? What you describe is pretty much what happens then.

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milkykid · 21/03/2011 14:52

Well the way my DP is pointing at the camera and the face he is pulling it was not a photo that they were ready for..............

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PeterAndreForPM · 21/03/2011 14:57

eh ?

I don't see the problem here.

Unless you have specific concerns about that specific woman, stop scrutinising bloody FB photos and speak to your partner.

PeterAndreForPM · 21/03/2011 14:58

...and now that woman thinks you are a loon

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milkykid · 21/03/2011 14:58

I never asked him to remove it. He did.

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PeterAndreForPM · 21/03/2011 14:58

he removed it and told her it was because you were upset with it

bloody hell

TobyLerone · 21/03/2011 15:00

"Well the way my DP is pointing at the camera and the face he is pulling it was not a photo that they were ready for .............."

My point exactly.

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milkykid · 21/03/2011 15:00

No she had it as her fb profile picture.

He asked her to remove it.

Nevermind .........

I am obviously being over-sensitive yet again.

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PeterAndreForPM · 21/03/2011 15:02

"yet again"

is there more ?

come on sweetie, this does seem to be an over reaction to a one-off incident

have you specific concerns, or not ?

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milkykid · 21/03/2011 15:05

Theyre friends, but I cant seem to get over it !

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PeterAndreForPM · 21/03/2011 15:08

Why can't you get over it ?

Has he ever cheated on you ? With her or with some one else ?

If I was out on the razz with a group of friends and a photo was being taken, or just generally, I could very well stand with an arm round a friend.

It's just an arm. It's just a hug, during a nice evening.

Now...tongues down throat, hand on arse/tit/inside clothing is another matter.

A hug can be just that

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milkykid · 21/03/2011 15:17

No he hasnt cheated.

They started being friends last summer, going out with work friends.... he stayed out late drinking with just her, I was at home with young baby and rightfully ( i believe) became concerned and then paranoid about their friendship. It is as far as I can see, just that, and yes I am becoming the Loon and I want to stop it but it keeps creeping in, with things like this that I get over sensitive with.

My ExH cheated and then left.....

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