Boyfriend and his sister....probably should have put this in AIBU

[everblack]

Wasn't brave enough!

Have been in a relationship for about a year. The man concerned says he loves me and I think he does but I'm a bit concerned about his relationship with his sister.

He often talks about how beautiful he thinks she is and buys her jewelery. He never buys me jewelery. Disclaimer: he is not mean with me at all - offers to pay for all kinds of things, but never anything romantic - just practical things (which I tend to refuse).

Now, I know I probably sound petty and jealous (perhaps I am!). I'm an only child, I don't understand sibling relationships. But he wants us to get married. I've been married before and don't want to get it wrong again! I'm glad he loves his sister so much but I'm not sure how appropriate his love of her is or where that leaves me?

Am I just being an idiot?

I think that he has sized you uo for a life you don't want and you know this. I can't see it working out for much longer to be honest. Your glamour is something ou find fundamental to who you are and something it seems clear he would expect you to tone down if you married. Pretending to be someone you're not never brings happiness, it always brings heartache. Enjoy him while the sex is good, but this isn't Mr Right.