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Original poster

this man is not agood prospect is he?

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thirdeye · 08/03/2011 11:10

been chatting to someone online.. and moved onto msn.

my man radar has been known to be out sometimes, so i thought id see what you all say.

Hes got two children aged 2 and 4. different mothers. he has one child alternate weekends.

He seems a bit obesesed with beautiful thin owomen and has made several derogatey comments about overweight women, or women who didnt try to be sexy, apparently his last girlfriend prefered leggings over stockings....
Hmm

then he keep going on about how excellent charlie sheen is,and how he would like his lifestyle, all booze and 'beautiful women'
when i pointed out the latest charlie sheen rant yeaterday he said, yes, but hes only saying it, not doing it. its the sort of thing i would say to an ex ( the bit about cutting her throat)
but becuase hes not doing it, its ok.

i shouldnt talk to him again should i

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Anniegetyourgun · 08/03/2011 12:12

"girlies"? Hmm

You can't be dating XH, he is a total technophobe, but for a moment there...

Oh, did I forget to add Run away, run away?

Mymblesson · 08/03/2011 12:21

Two kids by two different mothers in within 4 years?

Wants to emulate Charlie Sheen?

Obsessed with beautiful, then women?

Your mandar doesn't need fine-tuning, it needs switching on Grin

Mymblesson · 08/03/2011 12:22

Within in? D'oh!

Mymblesson · 08/03/2011 12:22

And then instead of thin. Good grief, time for lunch.

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thirdeye · 08/03/2011 12:25

It doesn't really need switching on... its the first time I've spoken to him on MSN.. and I will not meet up with him or talk to him again.
I'd say its working just fine.. I've just not got the.confidence in it.

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thirdeye · 08/03/2011 12:30

And I've just remembered he was saying on the subject.of what attracts him... basically just a willingness... and that chemistry came way down the.list.

Haha. Idiot

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sparkle12mar08 · 08/03/2011 12:30

I got to line three - and have two words for you: Run Away! What have you been through in your life that you even have to ask the question?

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thirdeye · 08/03/2011 12:37

Ha. I am running. Fast.

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AMumInScotland · 08/03/2011 12:45

Well done - you've spotted that he's dodgy and you're going to take action on it. As you get more confident you'll maybe not feel the need to check it out with us first, but there's no harm in getting us to confirm your conclusion!

Mumfun · 08/03/2011 12:46

Dont look back!

Anniegetyourgun · 08/03/2011 12:47

Indeed. Hopefully this will give you more confidence in your shit-O-meter.

ginnyjeans · 08/03/2011 12:49

Sorry - I wasn't saying you were a tramp! I was saying he sounds like the kind of guy who would next say 'send me naked pictures'. In other words... a total twat.

angrygingermidget · 08/03/2011 20:37

eek - no - no way.

BiddytheKnackerwoman · 08/03/2011 20:39

No. No he isn't.

textualhealing · 08/03/2011 21:52

He's a knob and I think you know it! Block, block, block, block, block!

hairylights · 08/03/2011 22:06

You need to ask? That is seriously faulty man radar you have there op!!

LadyFannyofBumStreet · 08/03/2011 22:44

Are you asking because on some level, you have a desire to 'fix' him?. I am not being sarcastic, I genuinely know women who actively look for such men for this reason.

[grin]@AyeRobot

PeterAndreForPM · 08/03/2011 22:48

I think you should give him a chance

he probably had a bad upbringing or something

TheSecondComing · 08/03/2011 23:25

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garlicbutter · 09/03/2011 04:47

Yeah, he's just telling you his fantasies! He's being honest, what more do you want? Lighten up and give him a chance! As long as he lurves you and buys a new cooker ... Wink

PeterAndreForPM · 09/03/2011 07:13

gb gets it

the cooker is the key Grin

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thirdeye · 09/03/2011 07:42

ah lovely.
the piss takers.
fantastic.

As ive already said ive figured out already that he is a twat.. but i just needed reassurance.

Having been single for quite a long time and in a both emotional and physically abusive marriage before that my radar, and actual self believe in my radar just needs building up a bit.

I just wanted to double check that what i was thinking was correct.

It was, there is no need to take the piss and be mean and callous is there. FGS. Grown the fuck up.

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TheSecondComing · 09/03/2011 09:08

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Heroine · 09/03/2011 09:10

perhaps it IS charlie sheen - in which case go for a meet in central london and call NOTW

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thirdeye · 09/03/2011 09:33

if it was my mate, i would know her background wouldnt i.
and so wouldnt take the piss.

lucky you that you life has been so perfect that you have not been in the position where you have doubted youself.

lucky you that you feel taking the piss out of genuine questions is on

and lucky you that your mates must find you hysterical and such a very good friend if they come to you for advice.

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