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Tell me that this is a lucky escape.

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poshsinglemum · 01/02/2011 22:23

Ok so started shagging this Spanish guy on Saturday night. Been together evry night since then. He's hot but very full on. The sex is good.

Today I got flowers and a card saying he loved me. I love the flowers but the card is too much. I tell him he's going too fast.

He then texts me to say he's sad because I don't like him etc. I phone him and he tells me I must have something wrong with my head. Oh please. What because I don't love him after three shags? I like him a lot and he's hot in bed but this has really put me off.

He put the phone down on me because I said I was enjoying the sex but didn't want commitment yet.

He's an abusive twat isn't he? Or am I really cold etc?

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SlightlyTubbyHali · 01/02/2011 22:26

He's an idiot. Or possibly a 14 year old girl.

Run like the wind, I say.

FaffTastic · 01/02/2011 22:27

You're not being cold. He is a twat with ishooos. Either that or a serial player.

Run sprint away now.

This is far to full on. How the hell can he love you when he knows frig all about you?

No great sex is worth that aggro so soon.

CameronCook · 01/02/2011 22:28

Run.

At first I thought the love thing could be a language issue, but having read the rest of it he's dodgy.

Coca · 01/02/2011 22:30

Still jealous of your hot Spanish sex!

loopylou6 · 01/02/2011 22:33

Yes you're mental. I love u

madonnawhore · 01/02/2011 22:35

Do you really have to ask...?

QueenBathsheba · 01/02/2011 22:37

Maybe it's a cultural thing. I'd be tempted to let him pop round and cook paella once in a while as long as he didn't bring a bag and expect to move in.

No not really, run like the wind he sounds very odd.

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poshsinglemum · 01/02/2011 22:38

Yes; the hot spanish sex was great but when I suggested we keep having it he went all funny on me and put the phone down. Poor thing; I think I've hurt him. I should verify that afetr each shag he went home afterwards instead of staying the night. Not that I really care but if he loved me he'd stay surely for hugs?!

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QueenBathsheba · 01/02/2011 22:41

Are the spanish very catholic, maybe he needed to go home to mummy.

BooBooGlass · 01/02/2011 22:41

But why the hell would you want him to stay??
I think this is obv something which should have been a one nighter that's gone horribly wrong. It wouldn't surprise me if he does this a lot.
Move on and ignore him. No amount of great sex is worth being pestered by someone quite clearly unhinged

FaffTastic · 01/02/2011 22:41

Umm, yeah, if he 'loved' you, he would stay for hugs and stay the night. A player just tends to shoot his load and go, to put it crudely.

Don't worry, I doubt you've hurt him that much! At least you got 3 days of great sex out of it anyway

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poshsinglemum · 01/02/2011 22:42

I just want great sex with a nice normal boyfriend; is that too much to ask. He really upset me by saying there's something wrong with my head as I ahve had mental health issues in the past and this has destroyed my relationships. Sigh.

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poshsinglemum · 01/02/2011 22:42

I asked him if he was Catholic and he said no. I thought; get in!

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BooBooGlass · 01/02/2011 22:43

But posh, you didn't go looking for nice normal sex with a nice normal boyfriend. You picked up a random and shagged him.

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poshsinglemum · 01/02/2011 22:43

Not any more!

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poshsinglemum · 01/02/2011 22:43

True; it was great fun though so no regrets. If it carried on I'd live to regret it.

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QueenBathsheba · 01/02/2011 22:45

Where did you meet him? not that I'm looking for hot spaniards or anything.

BooBooGlass · 01/02/2011 22:45

Maybe you need to think about this more, get some time and distancebehind it. If you really wanted a one nighter you wouldn't have had him back for more. It's ok to want the security of a boyfriend. But I think you're confused about what you actually want.

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poshsinglemum · 01/02/2011 22:47

I'm very confused. I actually love someone else but there's no chance so this was my attempt at ''moving on.''

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madonnawhore · 01/02/2011 22:47

Confused about what you want and looking in the wrong places to get it.

That was cheap of him to make a dig about your mental health when he is clearly the one who is bonkers barmy. Ignore that comment. He's all class isn't he?

QueenBathsheba · 01/02/2011 22:49

Is there any possibility with the anyone else?

Buda · 01/02/2011 22:49

Tell him my number is 555 444 6677.

Could so with some hot Spanish sex.

Could do with some hot sex.

Could do with some sex.

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poshsinglemum · 01/02/2011 22:50

Mabe. Back to the bar I say! And match.com etc.

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QueenBathsheba · 01/02/2011 23:22

nooooo, I meant the person you are in love with.

TDada · 01/02/2011 23:31

Something lost in translation?

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