Tell me that this is a lucky escape.

[poshsinglemum]

Ok so started shagging this Spanish guy on Saturday night. Been together evry night since then. He's hot but very full on. The sex is good.

Today I got flowers and a card saying he loved me. I love the flowers but the card is too much. I tell him he's going too fast.

He then texts me to say he's sad because I don't like him etc. I phone him and he tells me I must have something wrong with my head. Oh please. What because I don't love him after three shags? I like him a lot and he's hot in bed but this has really put me off.

He put the phone down on me because I said I was enjoying the sex but didn't want commitment yet.

He's an abusive twat isn't he? Or am I really cold etc?

I'm boggled here. He won't stay overnight, yet tells you he loves you? You are only shagging him to try to get over someone else? FFS sounds like both of you have had a lucky escape here.

Well I'm not going to be with the on I love but I'm human and need sex. I am not going to wait for him solid. I'm not just shagging him because of that. The sex is great and he is a sweet guy. I could genuinely grow to love this guy if he had given it time but he has killed it with his too soon declarations of love.

I just need some fun that's all. I was hoping to have fun and if it turned into something good then bonus. Too late now though.

I think Posh you need a strategy, you say you need sex but you would also like to meet someone that might perhaps become a more permanant fixture.

Rushing into sex often results in short term relationships, so you need to take time and get to know that person before hopping into bed.

So maybe find a shag pal for those lonely nights and use match or evening classes, friends intro's etc to look for a genuine guy who isn't looking to just hop into bed with you.

Probably the best line in the film As Good As It Gets:

Sweet girl: "All I want is a normal boyfriend, someone who won't go crazy on me!"

Mother (who shouldn't have been listening): "We all want that, dear. It doesn't exist."

my older brothers taught me the cardinal rule to play it cool....perhaps your hombre doesn't have un hermano