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I have just hit my DH (candle stick) UPDATE

27 replies

OhHelpMePlease · 28/01/2011 17:07

Hi all,

Its been a week since the events of last weekend. DH and I are still together and things are back to normal.

I did not go to the GP because my DH felt i would be putting a label on myself based on something that was out of character. I respected that but we agreed that I would see a counselor so that i can try and understand what happened.

I had a session on Tuesday and it went ok. My counsellor and I talked about a lot of things and he told me that, as far as he was concerned, I had no anger issues but that i had overreacted in a situation where i felt i had no control. DH and I also had a joint session yesterday which went really well. I will catch up with the counselor in a months time.

I am ever so grateful to those who read my thread and gave me advice. I checked on the thread a few days ago and was shocked at some of the things that were said.I appreciate that conversations evolve and I respect peoples opinions.My counsellor has told me to look at my own experience as it is too easy to get worked up on other peoples opinions/views.

I am still on MN but have now name changed to a cheerful name!

Thank you.

OP posts:
tinkerbell41 · 28/01/2011 17:09

really pleased it has all settled down!!!hope you have a lovely relaxed evening together...

jumpingcastles · 28/01/2011 17:11

glad to hear that you are on the mend and that you have the support of your DH

expatinscotland · 28/01/2011 17:11

Try not to get drunk and violent again.

jumpingcastles · 28/01/2011 17:17

i dont think she ever said she was drunk in the original thread

MigratingCoconuts · 28/01/2011 17:17

That's great! sounds like a really positive outcome and I think you have a lovely H.
Good luck with trying got a baby....

MigratingCoconuts · 28/01/2011 17:18

no, I don't remember any reference to being drunk either

MommyMayhem · 28/01/2011 17:18

Good for you, wishing you both all the very best of luck!

HumphreyCobbler · 28/01/2011 17:18

well done for addressing this so comprehensively

berri · 28/01/2011 17:19

Good for you for going to a counsellor, so many wouldn't have done and it will do your relationship the world of good.

Hope things work out well for you.

chocecclair · 28/01/2011 17:35

Glad to hear that you are doing well.

frankfurtersausage · 28/01/2011 17:43

I didn't post on your original thread but i watched with interest.

I think your counsellor was right to tell you to concetrate on your case.

Best of luck.

Zanywany · 28/01/2011 17:53

Really pleased things are going well for you both. Very brave of you to admit to what you did but pat on the back for addressing it (sorry hope that didn't sound patronising - wasn't meant to be)

Eurostar · 28/01/2011 18:14

What sort of a counsellor claims to be able to sum someone up after one session?

Changing2011 · 28/01/2011 18:17

great but how are the Butcher and the Baker?

reelingintheyears · 28/01/2011 18:56

Well done both of you and good luck.

holymoley · 28/01/2011 20:27

Good luck to you both, and hope you're enjoying your new car

ShirleyKnot · 28/01/2011 21:25

The imaginary sort Eurostar

blackeyedsusan · 28/01/2011 23:05

I am glad to hear that you have done something about it and gone for counselling.

JustForThisOne · 28/01/2011 23:23

glad for you OP. very well done and good luck with your TTC Smile

Hairyjumper · 29/01/2011 00:02

Well done and i hope you did not take much of the original thread to heart

11111 · 29/01/2011 22:29

That's great! I did read you original thread and as always that is what the problem with MN is - people rush to a judgement about somebody they don't know and always tar them with the worst outcome!! I am glad you are ok and hope you are really happy together. But I bet those who were horrid won't come back and say sorry! Those who THINK they know it all never do!!

MummieHunnie · 29/01/2011 22:51

That is lovely and thank you for updating as you had promised.

I think your dp must know you well to have told you to avoid the gp, and see a counsellor, and the sessions seem to have gone well there.

I wish you both well in your marriage.

ChippingInSmellyCheeseFreak · 29/01/2011 23:02

Great update :) I'm glad you are both OK :)

OhHelpMePlease · 31/01/2011 16:11

After all the stress, I am so pleased to let you know that I am pregnant!

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cremeeggsrock · 31/01/2011 16:24

lurked on your thread! big congrats, so happy for you Grin x