Promiscuity

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Anyone miss their promiscuous days?

I am now 28 with my 29th birthday around the corner and while I do not miss going out every night and I love spending time with my DD aged 9. However remember the days I would have sex with someone just fun with fondness.

Opportunity isn't there any more and apart from that I feel it is wrong now I have responsibilities

No, I really don't tbh. Maybe it's because I genuinely got it all out of my system when I had the chance.

The thought of casual meaningless sex makes me feel really icky now. I think I'd rather go without actually which is weird for me because there was a time when the possibility that I might get laid was my main motivating factor for doing pretty much anything.

Seem to have done a total 180 on this in my advancing years :)

I actually regret not having been promiscuous enough!

Nope I don't, \i too had my day and I have grown up. I have a friend who does go out eveyr weekend and will shag whoever. SHe has a 3 year old and tbh I really do consider that she should be more responsible. I know that makes me boring and prudish, but she's already picked up more than one infection from her irrisponsible behaviour, and, for her at least, it's a way of showing to herself that being a mother hasn't changed her, when in my experience, being a mother should change you.

Me too Roisinn!

But most of the girls I know who were very promiscuous in their twenties - i.e. one-night stands almost every week if they weren't in a relationship, tell me the sex was usually crap, they never had an orgasm and felt crap about it afterwards.

I think you need to be very confident sexually and sure of yourself to enjoy being promiscuous. Maybe it's something I can take up in my forties.

OP said >>Opportunity isn't there any more and apart from that I feel it is wrong now I have responsibilities>>

I feel the same but after such a long time celibate I am beginning to thing I have taken this responsibility business too far....

You are still very very young so plenty of time to get back into it at a slow place but hey... it aint fair to live like asexual being

More like I wish I had had more parteners, not so much promiscuous.

Me, too, madonna. I used to be quite happy to seperate love and sex but, after divorce#2, found I didn't get the same kicks from uninvolved sex. I'd started therapy by then, which may not be unconnected - but am still in favour of experimentation for those who haven't experimented quite as much as I did

We're all allowed to change our minds.

Btw: I had plenty of orgasms with lovers I'd only just met, thanks.

for Grace.

Do you think that's because you were able to pick the good ones? Or do you think it's because you gave specific instructions?

Belle you did not ask me but as O has always been second nature to me here is my to pennyworth
I think that wrt orgasm when you are very young it may well be down to luck
I got my first orgasm on the 3rd intercourse. It was only later speaking to girl friends I realised that it was not as easy for everybody, to my surprise , and as a young woman I used to to my best to share the knowledge
Once you know how to get it, sometime its only a matter of tilting your hips, that you can have it with any partner even with those that you do rate to high in term of performances and you do not intend to see the again
Some men though are particularly bad/clamsy and no matter how you try to drive the ''situation'' it just doesnt happen. Its sad when it happens with man that are otherwise great human being

spelling ffs!

BB - instructions! And technique - as described by JustForThisOne (tilt & wiggle, in my case)

No, not at all. I wish, though, that I'd been better at having casual sex when I was having it. I can't remember any one-night stand when I felt anything during sex (never mind an orgasm) except for one time when I had a for-old-times shag with an ex boyfriend which was magnificent [happy sigh]. However, I should have realised that my upbringing of always being polite and answering invitations quickly, and not refusing things unless I have a good reason, needed a bit of tweaking when it came to drunk men attempting to get off with me because I was the only female left in the bar.

mackerel pmsl

I had only had sex three times (1st time was rape) before I met DH, and I wish I could have waited for him.

Justforthisone - I think you are probably anatomically very lucky!

I've always found reaching an orgasm pretty straightforward, but not necessarily through the bumping and grinding bit. I find that with sex, both my lover's technique and my ability to explain what I like, are really important. I wonder if that's why a lot of women say ONS are unsatisfactory, because even though they are naked and shagging, they don't feel confident enough to say what they want.

Or maybe my friends aren't typical and most girls are loving it?

Should have found out for myself, shouldn't I?

@ mackerel's excessive politeness!

:( for you, javotte. My first was rape, too - I sort of went on a mission to reclaim the choice after that. It seems to have worked, in that respect anyway!

OK, [notebook out] describe this tilt and wiggle of which you speak? Is it like a basic pelvic tilt you do for back pain? Is it aiming for increased/reduced clitoral stimulation?

(as you may guess I tend to try and think my way to arousal, which may be where I am going wrong)

ok i remember one very drunken night ended up with note through my door from the girl
said "she had a wonderful time saturday, shame i could manage it twice!!!!
and could she come round again soon xxx"

Well, look who's here. It's Batman on a sex thread. How unusual.

mackerel your aim should be the G ...
bellebelicious BB oooh dont green face me please I have 6 years of nearly total celibacy I got to indulge in memories s/t
javotte

yep Batman time for you to make yourself scarce

Well, I can only tell you of my 'bump & grind', mackerel - we're all differently tilted, you know ... Yep, it's the Pilates thing. I got the wiggle down to perfection after applying a lesson learned at Lambada classes! (I had a fantastic teacher, whose catch-phrase was "Lead with your ovaries!" She told the men to imagine they had ovaries )

Oh, I did read a forum post once, from a young woman who said she reaches orgasm through internal 'pulsing'. Tried it: it works.

Must find that old Pilates DVD - I'm suddenly feeling freshly interested in my pelvic girdle ...

"shame I could manage it twice"

sounds like something I would have said to one of my inept partners batman

I thought I did, but DH and I had a rough patch, separated, I thought I was having lots of fun, in fact I was just feeding my ego and behaving like a twat. Grass looks greener but it really isn't....