Promiscuity

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Anyone miss their promiscuous days?

I am now 28 with my 29th birthday around the corner and while I do not miss going out every night and I love spending time with my DD aged 9. However remember the days I would have sex with someone just fun with fondness.

Opportunity isn't there any more and apart from that I feel it is wrong now I have responsibilities

its no good keeping fantasies in your head life is for living!!!!

God no! I don't miss them at all. But then I was promicious due to the insecurity of youth so slept with men to try to get them to like me or because I was drunk. Sex was ALWAYS bad. i only ever had good sex with boyfriends. Sex with DH is amazing because we are so comfortable with each other. No way can I let myself go with strangers or aquaintances.

I've only been with 2 partners but don't regret it, kind of wish the first hadn't happened actually!

(wrt orgasms I come really easily now, didn't always but they got a lot better when I got better at doing it myself, iyswim. Also think maybe it's a thing with being in your 30s rather than 20s?)

Can't believe I'm going to press post message...

Me too Robberbutton. When I hit 30 it suddenly became much, much easier.

But that could also have something to do with me ditching a twat and meeting a much nicer partner.

It wasn't only strangers.

Sometimes wasn't only one at a time - I miss that most.

its no good keeping fantasies in your head life is for living!!!!

True, but one has responsibilities.

Actually I struggle to decide what message to send my DD.

robberbutton - I think it depends on when you started masturbating. I started very early so like justforthisone I had regular orgasms very quickly with men even at a very young age. The better you know yourself the better sex you will have imo.

Itsgrace,please explain 'internal pulsing'.

Squeeze your vaginal muscles, fully, rhythmically - I can manage about three times a second (just timed it!) but some can do it much faster. It should feel like 'waves'. The girl on the forum said she presses her legs together while she does it. That worked for me, too.

Dead easy. You could do it on the bus, heh

What, like pelvic floor exercises? I never remember to do those, maybe this will inspire me!

"I think you need to be very confident sexually and sure of yourself to enjoy being promiscuous. Maybe it's something I can take up in my forties". Agree with Belle but I've waited even longer and taken it up in my 50s.
I dislike the word promiscuous though, I'm very discerning and only sleep with men I actually like and respect. They aren't one-nighters either, I'll see a man regularly though not that frequently.

I've never enjoyed sex so much, no worries about pregnancy (I'm post-menopause) and not looking for commitment. Men seem to be intrigued by my attitude, especially those in their 30s. I know this won't go on for ever but am living in the moment for the first time in my life and never been more content.

no. well i certainly don't miss the sex. perhaps occassionally miss the ego boost / excitement of seeing how far a flirt can go.

Loving your post, Anais! I had a lot of fun in my late thirties - early forties and am expecting to resume activity some time in my late fifties. (Yes, it can be done)

It certainly can Grace, it's life-affirming stuff. Although maybe our younger cousins here will think us bonkers...

People often mistake promiscuity for sexual confidence though.

Many people I know (both men and women actually) who have been promiscuous in their younger days, were actually pretty insecure, and the sex was more about wanting to be shown affection, or wanting to be liked, rather than a considered and equal choice to have sex.

Tbh I've never been one for one night stands but I do sometimes miss wild drunken sex with beautiful men I would never have seen my way to marrying! However, I would never exchange DH and ds for a return to those days. Even if we broke up I wouldn't feel right about being promiscuous now I am a mother. Not a very liberated view, is it, I can't explain it, though!

I certainly liked being popular and wonder if I would have been invited to the parties and places if I wasn't willing to have sex so easily.

However it was fun also.

With people I know it was fun playing a little hard to get with everyone knowing what the outcome would be. Although a lot of time it was me who was doing the chasing.

Going with strangers was exciting. Began with getting read, choosing my prey, hunting it down. I would never get drunk, wouldn't go with anyone who was drunk either, little point.

But then there were times when some guy come over and his line would be something like "heard your a slut, will you go to bed with me", lol of course the answer was no, well sometimes.