any other parents of teens managing to get any?

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I am sooo frustrated!

I have 2 DCs, 18 and 15 and since bedtime became a thing of the past, DP and I have been increasingly struggling to find opportunities for our sex life. We live in a pokey little terraced house with thin walls and the DCs manage to stay awake far longer than we can.

At weekends, we always sort of hope their plans will take them both away from the house at the same time for long enough but once again, we've just been interrupted - DS was supposed to be out til 9 but changed his mind.

This must be a common problem - what do other people do? Should I have a word with the DCs? Can't quite think how to approach it ... do we put our sex life on hold til they leave for college? Brazen it out and if they hear us, tough?

I'd be grateful for any practical suggestions or general sympathy.

They have TVs/laptops/ipods don't they?
Even if they hear you, it's not going to damage them.

They are old enough to know that their parents have a sex life and old enough to respect your need for privacy.

As long as you're not screaming the house down or swinging your nipple clamps around willy-nilly, go for it, being quiet can add an extra frisson too .

How much noise do you make?

Just get on with it

We just shoo them upstairs by ten at the latest and have bolts on the doors.

We got told off on Xmas eve by our 20 year old DD for being too vocal - she was home from Uni and we're used to being less restricted now.

You have my sympathies.

We have a very squeaky bed. Manys a time we have tipped ourselves onto the floor to avoid the squeaks.

It doesn't help that we are ttc and dd knows it, cue 'have you had sex this week yet mum' asked in Sainsburys.

No tips other than give your children a tenner to go out and spend on Saturday mornings.

tis awkward
luckily dd is out very late quite often
tis easier now she's older and out more

I know it won't damage them, it's our inhibitions we're up against. We can neither of us relax properly if we think we're being heard. DP has a tendency to roar a bit.

at 'roar'

What, like the MGM lion?

Gag him?

When I was younger my best friends parents used to lock themselves in their bedroom till lunch time on Saturdays. We all knew what they were doing and just tactfully ignored/played music/watched TV/went out. They are 18 and 15 and quite capable of finding other places to be or noisy distractions. Have fun! :o

Oh yes. I know the problem. My eldest is only 14 but he would stay awake until 2am given the choice, and while we can make him go to bed, we can't make him sleep

We have a bolt on our bedroom door and we just have to be very quiet.

Main problem is that DH an I have very different body clocks - I'm a lark nd he's an owl so our natural time is about 3pm. That never happens these days. So it's either a frenzied bathroom fumble on a saturday morning or a late night clinch when I am struggling to stay awake

We have a tv and dvd player in our room and often go through to "watch dvds " leaving the kids with the cable tv etc
Or we leave the radio on

We also have lock on our bedroom door

Last time I tried bribing DS to go to the cinema he came back 30 mins later with a DVD and 3 fried-chicken-bearing friends because they changed their minds. I just can't quite bring myself to be properly clear. I've had no problems talking to them about their bodies and future sex lives over the years but it feels like a very different thing to ask them to acknowledge that their mum has a sex life IYKWIM - I just know how grossed out they'll be.

I'm with you

Just like the MGM lion, GetOrf

DD's room opens straight off ours (crap conversion) so locking door is not practical. We have to wait until she's either out or asleep.

I think we need to just be a bit more brazen then and try and stop worrying about being heard.

I can hear ds going up and down the landing with various night time snacks and crunching away really sets the scene downside is every time ds goes out p chases me around like bloody benny hill

Does he slap your baldy head?

no he lifts up my apron with a feather duster

take a day off and meet up at home during the day?

or go outside the home?

And Im also single parent so can't have someone dcs don't know in the house.

oh my god i feel sick at the thought!

i used to hear my parents at it every so often and omg! it was awfull i used to throw stuff at the doors or cough really loudly to make it stop..

Roar like the MGM lion

Bitoffun...
Are the bolts on the outside of the DCs doors?

your dd has a room off yours???
No wonder you feel frustrated.
So much lack of privacy
any way you could get seperate doors put in?

or swap rooms with her and get a lock

or could you make your room the living room with her room off and use the current living room as your room?

You got a shed?
a Campervan?
a sleeping bag in the attic?

Put up a tent in the garden.
Nice comfy air bed and you're sorted.

my kids know we have sex - i'm a grown up

so we do one of these

wait til they are both out and grab the opportunity

tell them to go out becuase we want a bit - and they do...rather quickly

wait til bedtime and be as quiet as poss or put some music on