DH has lots of women friends WWIFN?

[Polecat2011]

New on here. My DH makes friends with women and never men. He is not open about these friendships, and I seldom get to meet the women, most of whom he works with, often a long way from home. He gives them small value gifts to do with their hobbies. Is this what WWIFN means by the first stage of an affair, ie, mirroring. I believe he pretends to be fascinated by their hobbies, mostly cooking, or wine or travel, which he does enjoy.

Should I object? I am nervous as people occasionally comment that he is flirtatious. His previous marriage ended on account of his adultery.

sorry, posted on wrong thread

Polecat-I also want you to know that I don't think you are stupid or a fool. I can't express it quite eloquently as LittleMiss or Grace, but the jist of it is that you are one of a pure and honest heart and you were used by a snake of a man.

I am sorry for the shock you are suffering and your heartbreak at having a basic, fundamental trust so completely dismissed and disregarded by your h. You did not deserve that to happen to you.

As to 'prove it'...difficult to say. If you need proof for your own piece of mind, then perhaps one photograph from a private investigator would be enough-for you, mind you, to give the divorce attorney or use as a dart target if nothing else.

Is he one that might say: "I haven't done anything wrong until you prove it"? That would be him creating a rule to govern his game.
I do not believe you owe it to him to prove his depravity to justify leaving him. It may help you to retain some dignity by refusing to get down in his gutter and bathe in his fecal behavior.

You will survive this. (But please, as Grace suggested, get the STD test.)

Dunno where I'd be without opposite sex friendships tbh

Well I'd be without the chap who walked me up the aisle (Father died young and no brothers or uncles). I'd be without godfathers to the DCs. I'd be without the chums who take me for wine when it's needed. I'd be without friends cancelling my diary and taking me away for the weekend. I'd be without two of my best friends in the whole world, frankly. Actually, I'd just be without.

So hooray for friends of the opposite sex.

And to the OP, no, I don't think your DH is necessarily cheating. I mean of course he may well be. Or he may just enjoy the company of women, and worries you might feel uncomfortable. Hard to say.