Thank you, relationships advice regulars - you are fabulous!

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I have name changed for this, just in case.

Today I was able to help a client who is at the end of a very difficult relationship, thanks to the wonderful and knowledgeable ladies who patrol this area.

For instance, I was able, thanks to advice on these threads, to direct her to information like the "Ten signs that he's an abusive wanker" (you know what I mean). She sat there reading the list and saying, "Yes, yes, often, always...wow, he does nearly ALL of those things!". She had thought it was all her fault. I don't think she does now.

And thanks to the advice on here, she is now going to put together an emergency plan and change her locks.

So thank you, you changed someone's life today!

MNers are bloody wonderful. Their wisdom and patience have kept me sane through some horrible times.

High fives all round, ladies.

love happy stories!

Agree, mumsnetters are great! I have not posted a problem so far, havn't needed to, but take a lot of the really great advice on board. It's a great site

Mumsnet has been a support group for me in providing validation, clarity, vocabulary to find my voice...you have been an essential component in my discovery/recovery of my crap childhood and its continuing effects.

Thank you from here as well.

Most MNetters are fab, but there are a lot of bullies too!!

There are bullies everywhere, however there are many selfless MNers who give a great deal of their time and energy to helping others. I am amazed at their patience and generosity.

Yes they are. I could red flag away with my friend recently and actually it really opened her eyes, and mine.

I truly wish I had had MN six years ago, or earlier. I would have got the support I needed.

Hurrah, nomchange!

I'm another one whose life would have been greatly more sorted if Mumsnet had been around. Like you, I pass on what I learn here. Hope she makes good use of her newly-opened eyes :)

Yes I wish I knew of MN when I needed it, and I find MN so usefull still.

Just wanted to bump this thread and add my thanks to all the participants who provide supportive, direct, honest and useful advice.

and y'know we need a couple of wild cards once in a while. It keeps things interesting..

I used that 'Signs you are dating a Loser' here with a friend of mine not that long ago.

He'd swept her off her feet and while we were all delighted for her, I gave her the MN paragraph about taking care of herself and to be aware.

Within days there was an episode, I sent her the link and told her to go with her gut feeling. It got worse, but she dumped him and deleted him from her life.

MN has really helped me, not just in relationships, but in RL.

I'm glad I know of MN now, of course if I'd have known of here previously, I'd not have got INTO this mess... but I know I'll get some great advice in the weeks to come getting out of it all!

ILovedYou, that bum note was completely uncalled for

AF aren't bum notes a trademark of Mumsnet?

maybe so

I agree OP

Like BOF, I wish I'd known about MN 8 years earlier.

There truly is some fantasic advice on here.

tsc...the ruck appeared on a different thread

all was revealed

no, no am not going to link a thread on this one

go search...it shouldn't be too hard

and no, it ain't dp

looks in, agrees with OP then is too curious about AF's news of a thread to think of an answer!!

I posted as a namechanger a while back when something seriously awful happened, and I got a phenomenal amount of support and help. It was life-alteringly helpful, actually.

(Anyfucker, you posted! Were ace. Thank you. )

I too think MN is ace. A good friend of mine is stuck in an abusive relationship - thanks to many threads and advice on here I was able to help her move forward for a couple of a months. Sadly she took him back . Keep trying to encourage to her to come on here and see how typical her DH is behaving (he has read the Abusers Manual and is following it to a t) but so far to no avail.
I will keep reading however and pass on nuggets to her and hopefully she'll see the light soon.

hope things are ok for you now, PS

AF you posted on a thread of mine (I since had it deleted as I want to get friend to look on here for advice and I was worried she would spot it plus I name changed) but if from all that you can work out which thread then yes I made the call tho am now worried about the fallout.
Sorry for hijack just thought you might like to know AF.