Thank you, relationships advice regulars - you are fabulous!

[nomdechange]

I have name changed for this, just in case.

Today I was able to help a client who is at the end of a very difficult relationship, thanks to the wonderful and knowledgeable ladies who patrol this area.

For instance, I was able, thanks to advice on these threads, to direct her to information like the "Ten signs that he's an abusive wanker" (you know what I mean). She sat there reading the list and saying, "Yes, yes, often, always...wow, he does nearly ALL of those things!". She had thought it was all her fault. I don't think she does now.

And thanks to the advice on here, she is now going to put together an emergency plan and change her locks.

So thank you, you changed someone's life today!

sorry eliza, I don't recall but thanks for update anyway

did your friend post here then ?

don't say if you don't want to, however

No its fine. I posted about my lovely friend taking back her physically abusive H. Kids involved who were scared shitless. I was advised to take ring certain people. I did. I know I did the right thing - one DC is threatening self harm. That is the great thing on MN - after reading so many threads I knew what was going to happen. Sadly I don't know what to do now.
Again sorry for hijack.

will pm you, tsc

it's a very tame one, but may explain a few things

oh yes, I remember now eliza, and yes, you did what you could

sadly, sometimes you just can't help people but trying is very important

tsc, have pm'ed ya

wow! Just read the article about 'signs you are dating a loser'.

I thought my husband was sometimes a little controlling but he is nothing like the loser at all. However my mums partner when I was growing up was just like this. It's made me realise I get so defensive when I think I am being controlled in anyway - but I am probably not being controlled at all.

If he expresses an opinion about what I am doing I just do what I want anyway and he doesn't really complain. Some of my friends and family's partners are just like the loser though which is a scary thought.