Is your husband/partner the love of your life?

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Feeling loved up today (must be ovulating, ha ha!) so thought I would start a nice happy thread for a change!

DH is definitely the love of my life/the one. We absolutely get on and understand each other better than anyone else does or ever has. He is always kind and considerate towards me and never takes any grumps out on me. And I still fancy him and think 'ooh!' when he walks in the door, despite being together a loooooong time!

If there is such thing as a soul-mate he is definitely it

I've been in that situation of being with someone that was either ok but I wasn't in love with, or with for reasons other than being in love, i.e. having DD. I'm glad I was able to build the strength to leave those relationships and finally be in a relationship where I am happy and am treated the way I have always wanted to be treated by a DP. I feel very lucky to have DP. And I feel if I could find my "prince" after all those frogs, then other people can too.

I only met mine in November but we agree that we have never felt about anyone the way we do about each other. We are ideally suited, fancy each other rotten, best friends, soulmates...even in bed together it's a completely different experience from others in the past. Anyone who knows me from the FIA dating thread in Lone Parents will know that I refer to this guy as TLOML - The Love of my Life.

We're both in our 40s with a significant past relationship history and three children between us...but we are perfect for each other.

Richlinn, you've made me teary again!! I know you're right. The 'one bite of the cherry' strikes so true. I feel like I've lived my entire adult life doing 'the right thing', but to change things and 'do it my way' will hurt so many people... DH, DC's, our families.

Can I ask what are you doing to change things?

Tammy, I wish I had your strength, I really do. But DH and I have so many shared things - mortgage, business, etc. If we were to split, what would happen? We both work equally hard in the business. Small business, we have staff, but it couldn't really survive without both of us, we have very different but essential roles.

Oh God, it's all very well dreaming, but reality is, our finances are just too intertwined.
With 3 DCs to think about, I have to be practical, Guess it's back to 'doing the right thing' again.

garciasangria, i think you should start your own thread about this - as a first step to working out what you really want and making a move in the right direction. Please don't wake up in ten years time and find you're still not living the life that you want.

I'm sure you'll get lots of sympathy, support and advice if you start a thread here about this.

garciasangria While you think you are doing your duty (which is generally a very good thing), you are actually stopping your OH finding someone who would love him in the way that you can't. Also, what happens if you do meet the love of your life? It would be much worse to leave your husband under those circumstances.

I agree with MabelMay - start a thread, and I'm sure you'll get helpful advice.

garciasangria I'm so sorry about your situation; it sounds like you've been through hell.

If you don't mind me asking - were you happy in your relationship & in love before the illnesses (both your DC and DH's)? I was just thinking that if the answer to that is yes, it could be worth having some couples counselling to see if you can get it 'back' somehow. Many fantastic couples' relationships fall apart purely because of horrible and stressful situations which are nobody's fault in the first place.

Hope you're feeling ok today, anyway