Hes hurtine me and i dont know why?

[mummyof2]

I have been with my BF for 8 years we have 2 kids together and generally have an ok lifestyle.The only problem is he hits me.Its been going on since we first got together when we were 16, I have never classed it as being domestic violence because it doesnt happen on a regular basis once or twice a month maybe,and everything is always fine the next day. But yesterday he hit me because i wouldnt tell him who was on the phone even though it was only his mum i got really anoyed and didnt talk to him he said sorry. About 3 weeks ago we had a big row after i said i didnt want to go on holiday with his friands which resulted in him pouring a can of beer all over me and dragging me across the living room by my hair.The next day i had a few marks on my face but hey ive had worst! no one in my family knows about this my mum hates him anyway, i have no one to talk too and i get fed up of making excuses for him.I always think "well it wont happen again then it does". He is a great dad and otherwise a nice loving person except for this, sometimes i cant look him in the eye then other days its like nothing ever happened. He went to prison a couple of years ago for an assault only for a couple of months i was in touch with womens aid then but nothing ever came of it. I dont know what to think anymore?

he isnt a lovign person is he?

If you are for real, for the sake of your children please leave this man.

Not when hes hitting me, but i feel bad if i leave because its not an everyday thing! And i know some women have the same scenario everyday in their lives .

what woudl you say if a freind told you this mummyoftwo?

mummyof2
sorry but this is domestic violence
he is a control freak
he also humiliates you
yes he may be a good dad but they usually are

there will come a day when he will either hit you so hard to do serious damage or kill you

LEAVE HIM

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Get out now.

If this was a friend of mine i would tell them to leave definately but this is really hard for me right now i need support and there is no one there for me

go to a refuge

exactly
come one fgs

Get out.

You don't need anyone to be there for you - you need to get yourself and your children away from this man - he will never ever change. What if its one of the children next time and not you. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but if he is not there at the moment and you are on the computer this is an ideal chance for you to pack some stuff and get out. Please do it today before it is too late.

Get back in touch with women's aid they will help you.
He is abusing you.

Think of your daughters.

I only find it really hard to deal with straight after it happens then i think right that it im leaving ,but then i just stay and listen to his sorry it wont happen again blah blah blah. And to be honest im really scared of leaving as i have only ever been with him.

fine there you are then
leave him

Right put it this way, do you love him more than your children, because thats what its sounds like. A life on your own with your children must surely be better than this?

on day he might hit the kids instead of you. ive been where you are (didnt have kids though) get out while you can it may be scary and hard but do it or you may live to regret it

I know what youre all thinking im some stupid woman being hit about why doesnt she just leave but unless you really are in my situation its hard to imagine what my life is like and how i feel.Please dont all think im stupid!

so make a plan then
what r you going to DO

I dont think you are stupid but alot of women have been in your position {me included} and believe me it gets worse.

If you still want to be together make him earn it by going on a domestic violence course etc
but until then your main priority is the safety of yourself for your childrens sake.

I give it, I am leaving this thread now.

You need to go, no matter about your feelings. You need to think about your health and sanity and the health of your children.

That was meant to say - I give up