Do you REALLY end up just like your mum?

[charliebat]

Really couldnt stand being as bitter and twisted as her and make every effort to not be, but will I be regardless? Is that just the way it goes?

god i hope not

no

my mum is a nutter/bitter/twisted/agoraphobic/agonisingly self-aware/superstitious

i am not like that.

she does have some nice qualities though which obviously I DO have

I hope so! My mum's the nicest person I know!

ahhhhhh hunker

I sincerely hope not.

My Dh is constantly saying I am turning into my Mom...she is the most beautiful woman ever, but is also very overweight and ever so slightly fascist..

Lucky old pumpkin, you must come from a good vine.
I know I am like my mum in temperament which is a scary concept as she is a very difficult woman. But she has also really struggled (successfully IMO) to put her horrendous, motherless childhood behind her and be the best mother she could to us. Some aspects of our childhood were pretty awry (she never played with us because no-one ever played with her ) but I've never doubted her loyalty and love.
I try and damp down the vile temper she has passed on and cultivate her can-do, fierce devotion to family life instead.
Basically you might be like her charliebat but you don't have to be JUST like her because you have different choices and circumstances.

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I am scarily like my mother. I do things now I swore I would never do as a child that my mum always does. Like when I used to lose things and ask her if she had seen them she would reply yeah on the side...... ok - what side? The side! the side! I do that all the time with DH now

Oh god I hope not.

Have you read my thread?

I really hope I'm not in a minority - that would be too for words.

My mum is the kindest, funniest person - she's intelligent, thoughtful, witty - if I could be half the woman she is...

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I'm not ashamed to become my mother either hunker - she is a very close friend of mine but I have inherited a lot of her annoying habits!

lol - can you be "slightly fascist"?

My mum's lovely. Much nicer than me.

SE read it and posted

I'll ask her if she'll adopt you, Cod

Tinker, I am trying to be nice, mostly she is kind and considerate...then she comes out with these appalling statements straight from The Third Reich!

lizzylou. Well, not really but...

Lizzylou, thats the one!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Alas no, my mother is slight, Indian and famous for being gorgeous. I am none of the above.

Am I think less of a PITA though.

TBH, I'm much more afraid that I'm turning into my MIL than my mother, I certainly spend a lot of time picking up after DH, just like she does.

I wish! I'd like her house, her car, her lifestyle. She's gallavanting around Montreal with a bunch of ladies from her poker league just now. What a life!

Good Lord, I hope not!!!

Chloe55 - You're not alone - I've inherited 'the side' and 'the cupboard' (there are of course many sides & cupboards in the house!!!) DH gets v exasperated with me.

I am in many respects like my mum but she never sees it - she spends many hours telling me - you get that from your father or you sound just like your father, or youre just like your father.... all of which are comments about undesirable qualities that my Dad has. Not sure why shes does this. Don't get me wrong she is and has been a wonderful mum and we get on great but it is annoying habit she has. Hope I never do this to DD. I used say nothing but now at the age of 34 gradually starting to point out that I am actually a mix of both parents but most importantly just unique as ME!

(Although I have noted myself that I have my grannys once annoyed never forgiven nature - and thats that person of the xmas card list!!)[shocked]