Text Message on my DH's phone from female colleague

[Demi]

Background to the story - a week before Christmas there was an office drink arranged for the local pub. It was DH's female colleague's last day before she was going on a long-planned 4 week holiday with her son. My DH was working from home that day and ended up getting caught up in some work problems and unable to make the drinks.

A week later I found the following text on my DH's phone:

Female colleague: I'm not going to make the drinks, still working, please apologise to everyone for me.

DH: Message not saved but presumably he said he wouldn't make it too.

Female colleague: Oh shame, I'll text one of the others.

DH: Message not saved.

Female colleague: LOL! I'm glad we did that! Something for you to remember me by! See you soon.... oxoxo

So, what the flip was my DH's second text all about?

I have asked him, he says that the day before he said goodbye to her in the office and gave her a goodbye hug and wished her well for the holiday - all just in case he didn't make the drinks. Sounds like something my DH would do because he's always bailing out on social things because of work. So he says the text said something along the lines of 'just as well we hugged goodbye in the office'.

Not sure what to think. I have no other reason to be suspicious of my DH, but I'm not totally convinced by his explanation. I just don't think people send texts like that last one over a hug in the office.

Not sure what to think.

OP Dh's was working from Home that day so don't think he snuck out to meet that woman that night instead of going to the party

Blondes (and others) that was my point exactly. Why would anyone be nosing in their DH's phone?

UQ, I have read my DH's texts before and him mine. We have iphones so they just pop up ifswim.

Also becuase of his job he can't always have a mobile on him in his locations so if he is waiting for an urgent call say from, bank, garage at the mo with our new car etc. He leaves his phone to me and ASKS me if he has had any texts if he gets to call me from a landline on a break. He will leave his phone with me on days he can't have his phone switched on and is expecting calls.

No he isn't having an affair it's a security issue, I could get him via other means in emergency only.

Would I snoop without him knowing.....no.

UQD - iswym - so yes op why were you fiddling about with Dh phone and going into his messages

Emmyloulou - that's different - your Dh is asking/giving permission for you to read his messages

I have no prob in Dh reading mine but sure he wld find them Boring too girly for him

I get unlimited texts and can often text 20/50 times to one person about trivial chat over a few hours - even within an hour lol

Yeah his texts are boring, but work, geeky rubbish mainly but pass the on

Yeah it's diffrent just explaining to Ud some circumstances where it may happen.

Never nosed at his phones at home though ever whe he is here. Plural as he leaves them lying around and one is works only, personal calls is a big no-no, I can't even phone it in an emergency!

He thinks my texts are crap too, he'll read them if I am having my hair done or something, I'll ask if my phone goes!