What is the biggest thing you've ever forgiven?

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I didn't know what category to use for this but chose Relationships because most likely to strike a chord on this subject though it could be forgiving anything/anyone.
What is the biggest wrong (done to you) that you have genuinely forgiven? And by that, i mean accepting an apology/offering forgiveness/or just making peace with yourself by deciding to forgive.

my mother for not telling me that the person I called Dad was not actually my father.
My sister for completely destroying my social circle with her lies (and more importantly making me a liar by proxy with her actions)
My ex for replacing me 3 weeks after we split, with one of my best friends. (after 14 years together and while we were still living under the same roof)

"I don't forgive, ever, if someone has wronged me, I cut them out of my life and don't give them another thought.

Some things are completely unforgivable imho."

My feelings exactly, Malificence

I even struggle to forgive myself for putting up with these wrongs - violence, emotional abuse, infidelity.

Fgs, I'm holding a grudge against myself.

My dad sexually abusing me when I was a child.
I have forgiven but I will never forget it

My Dad for committing suicide.

I blame myself for that.

Milgavie, please don't. I'm sorry.

Milgavie - been there, done that. But truly it wasn't your fault any more than it was mine. I regret that my last words to my father were to tell him he'd lost me as a daughter, but I no longer blame myself for his actions.

I also try not to see my dad as a straightforward bastard, although it's so tempting to do so - it's more complex than that - he was weak, and pathetic, but ultimately so backed into a corner he saw no other way out. Not a choice for him, just an inevitable path to that ending. My brother can't move on, and it's ripping him apart .

AF - glad to see you're not fucked any more !

ditto Custardo - an act of violence.

I'm not with him anymore - but that's because he's a twat in general - not because of what happened

thanks, CR, I had a good nights sleep so am fresh as a daisy now

just a regular fucker

Wow some of you are very forgiving! I don't think I could forgive some of the shit you ladies have!

Hmm I would say forgiving my Then Boyfriend and best friend of 10 years sleeping together. Twice.

I will say though I forgave him pretty soon after but her as she was my best friend since being a child took longer, However I think I am 'there' now. Obviously not friends with her though.

Not saying but it was pretty serious and no does not involve my DH or anything like that.

Lie goes on and all that and what does not fuck you over makes you stronger :)

I wouldn't be the person I am now without having gone through that.

I'm more in the forgetting camp than the forgiving camp tbh.

My uncle sexually abused me when I was around 4. It went on for a while. Years maybe, no idea. Didn't tell anyone until I was 13, and mum begged me not to press charges.

It's not really an issue now, I don't think about it much and it doesnt make me angry, but I will probably never forgive. I don't see why I should actually.

Forgiving my husband for having an emotional affair behind my back with someone I considered to be a 'friend' who I met at a local PND group. He worked with her bloke so that's how we all started to get together. They started coming round to ours on a saturday night for takeaway and drinks (well not Slagface as she was 9mths preg)

I found a chat on our laptop through facebook and confronted him about it, said it was nothing then said he wouldn't talk to her!!

That was Novemeber 2009. I started noticign his phone on silent a lot and getting a lot of messages. I spoke to the girl when they started coming round again (stupid me for giving into the there's nothing in it etc etc blah blah fucking blah). I asked her if he had spoke to her and if she knew if he was texting another lass or was it her, she sat there on MY sofa and said no I don't know!! (Thinking now she looked shifty when she said it)

When the phone bill came january I found a number on his calls list, 12 texts here, 10 texts there - one day 18 texts were sent - but he couldn't reply to my texts :s
I found the number on her facebook account and knew it was her!

Confronted him and not had contact since!!!

Nothing happened and I believ him! But I still promise to smash her face in

Forgiven but not forgotten!!

cheeky, I think you should smash your husbands face in

Maybe I'm changing the tone here but -
I've forgiven my mum for not telling me I had a half-sister given up for adoption ten years before I was born.

Finally I know my big sis now and I love her

Cheeky - why is your anger not directed at your husband?

she has forgiven him, faff, so I guess she is directing her anger elsewhere

lucky for him, eh ?

I withdraw my last post

this thread isn't about whether you should forgive, and I am sorry to question cheeky's decision, which was entirely her own and not up for discussion here

my apologies x

I understnad it should be and it was at first!! But now no contact between them as she has blocked both of us on facebook!! Anyhoo she is pregnant again now with her cheating, lying boyfriend of her own! Nothing carried on because I told her stuff about her that her bloke doesn't know and that I'd tell him to ask her about the threesome she had with her bloke and HIS best friend in which she carried on an affair with said friend ;)

Ha!!

I understnad it should be and it was at first!! But now no contact between them as she has blocked both of us on facebook!! Anyhoo she is pregnant again now with her cheating, lying boyfriend of her own! Nothing carried on because I told her stuff about her that her bloke doesn't know and that I'd tell him to ask her about the threesome she had with her bloke and HIS best friend in which she carried on an affair with said friend ;)

Ha!!

AF apologies accepted :)