How would you feel if your mother told you you were her least favourite child?

[secondbest]

Just wondering if I'm supposed to laugh this off or not.

My mother announced at a family party (with my PIL) that my older brother (and only sibling) is her favourite child, and then qualified it with it being because he was her first, as if that explains thing.

I have two children and love them equally so can't quite understand her point, other than that she favours my brother over me and always has.

How would that make anyone else feel? Am I too old to find that slightly hurtful?

My mother never made any secret of preferring my sister & brother over me. And it hurt. Doesn't hurt that much any more as I cut her off when I left home at 18. I picked up on it for most of my life. When I was 16 she said she didn't love me & didn't want me & described how my birth came about. I was unwanted, an accident. Dad & her brothers (of which she had 7 of, no sisters) convinced her to keep me. I was #3 of 3.

You have every right to be sad, upset, a angry...etc & more. I am not sure where you go from here, sorry. But do please read the stately homes thread. I was on it in it's first incarnation. But no longer post.

Thanks everyone for your advice.