Have had a tough few days,basically we have a sickness bug going through our family,my husband had planned to go away visiting his grandad and he went,i stayed home running from bedroom to bedroom cleaning up sick,and showering down the kids,changing bed etc..you can picture the scene!!
Anyway he came back last night and starts rushing around with a mop and bucket cleaning everything (i'd already cleaned and had told him).
I got the impression he was in a mood with me about something but wasn't sure why?
He then said he's picked up a cloth to clean a cup and realised it wasn't clean,aparently there was sick on it and he'd used it,what was it doing by the sink? etc etc...i was exhausted and seemed he was picking up on everything i hadn't done right,i've no idea how the cloth got by the sink and why it hadn't been washed out but i'd been rushed off my feet,had no sleep and was feeling sick myself,i started defending myself verbally as i was really cross and then went to my room and put the lock across.
Husband followed shouting me to let him in,i said no,he then proceeded to kick the door in,ripping the whole frame from the door,pulling off the paint and there was a big hole in the door from his knee (hollow fire doors).
He said he just wanted to say sorry but i find this scarey behaviour and i'm sure our children do too,they keep out the way but they can hear and see the damage later
This is not the first time,when we argue or he hurts himself he behaves this way,he has thrown his work boots at the walls in our dining room,left chunks of plaster they were thrown so hard,punched holes in our shed etc...
I don't want our boys growing up thinking this is the way to deal with your emotions,i know i need to try not to start arguements and when i raise my voice this is when it all kicks off but hard to keep my mouth shut sometimes.