Wobbleing....My Father (ie: grandfather to be) is not happy with possible baby name!

[Highlandgirl]

Hi all,

Long story so my apologize in advanace.

DH and I really really love a 'certain' girls name. The name isn't important.

My father however has 'gotta' wind of this name and needless to say he's not best pleased, and has been slagging me and the name off to the whole sodding family. angry I've been told it's old fashioned and shouldn't be used as a first name. He said much worse when I spoke with him on the phone, but to be honest his rudeness isn't the problem. It's that I'm now starting to wobble over a name I've wanted since I'm been about 15.

I should also mention, the name in question is my middle name, my grandmothers middle name and my great-grandmother's first name. My father gave me this name so I don't understand the problem.

DH doesn't understand why I'm worried about what my father thinks, as 'you've never listened to your father, why start now'..grin

I'm now concerned about using this name...! Esp if baby arrives and it look nothing like 'the name'. First time Mum here and clearly over thinking things...shock However I don't wish to upset my father nor fall out with him as this is his first grandchild.

Any advance would be great.

No one liked my name for ds. Said it was half a name. I laughed, and called him it anyway. Turns out he suits it.

Tell us, even if we dont like it, it's good practice for you to learn not to care, handy when dealing with dad.

Tell him to fuck off

We've had mixed reaction to our choice too (uncommon, but easily recognised) - and we nearly, nearly wavered. Now I can't imagine him being called anything else.

Go for it - kids grow into their names just as much as they 'look like an X'

Think about some people you know with uncommon names - is it really a problem?

What's the name? Really curious.
Btw whatever it is, use it. It's your baby, not his.

He must have loved the name at some point, so not sure why he wouldn't like it now.

Unless he was 'forced' or pressured into using it himself by his parents and never liked it then. Just a thought.

My MIL wasn't over the moon with our daughter's name (although she never said anything)

It was her Spanish MIL's name (she hated her, loathed her)

Since we were both partly Spanish we thought of that name. I added my mother's name as her middle name.

I guess she really felt put out.

Still, we were living abroad when I had my daughter so she was presented with a fait accompli

Highland Gril - come on, spill - then we can tell you how lovely it is :)

I think it's a lovely idea to use a family name, unless it's something like Gertrude in which case I would keep it for a middle name.

Alright....!

If bump is a girl, we'd like to call her:

Honor Catherine

Catherine is a family name on DH side. So really both side should be pleased...but most importantly we love it.

What do you think then......!!!!???

that's a beautiful name--go for it (but only if you have a girl)

Sod grumpy gramps

That is such a nice name :) (and since when have grandparents started to complain that names are old-fashioned!! Would he prefer Xara or some such??).

I don't normally comment on names, but I do like that one.

I think that this is ringing alarm bells for how your father would like to behave once your baby is born, ie continue to be The Dad and tell you and your husband what to do forever more. There will be so many opportunities for him to comment and tantrum on how you bring your child up, so it is best to be 100% clear from the outset.

"Dad, your behaviour regarding my baby's name has been disgusting. Do not expect it to change any decision my husband and I make."

Honor Catherine is a lovely name!!!

don't let anyone bully you into not using a name you love. trust me

Beautiful name.

Love it :)

My DF didn't like my sons name either. He thinks it sounds too much like a girls name. You can't please everyone

That's a lovely name - and timeless, I think. I am so sorry that your dad is giving you such a hard time over this - it is a really special time, when you are expecting a baby, especially your first, and to deliberately upset you like this is so unfair of him. I'd like to give him a big piece of my mind (and it would be a jolly effective piece too - my kids say I am the scary parent - lol).

{{{hugs}}}

Thank you....! My father lives at the other end of the country so it's not like we'll see him all the time. I'm quite firm with my Dad, we have 'fought' in the past about just about everything...thankfully my brother told me Dad to get a grip.

Yes, i'd be quite gutted if I only had boys (as much as i'm sure i'd love them)..purely as I'd never get to use Honor.

My father suggestion was...Iris! Go figure x

My Dad..not me Dad!!!

Iris and (sorry anyone called Iris).... he has no right to comment!!

Honor is not a name I would choose myself (too American for my liking and I'm not keen on names that are 'words' as well (even with different spelling) so Summer, Carlton etc), but it's an OK name and certainly not one to have your Dad slagging you off about - family name or not?! I am still completely bemused by the fact that it's his family name and he's now shouting the odds over it?? Very, very odd.

You like, plenty of other people like it, it's not an 'off the wall' name.... use it or you will regret it.

I look forward to the birth announcement of baby Honor

Are you planning on finding out beforehand if you are going to get to use Honor this time - or are you letting it be a suprise?

I love Honor - it's such a beautiful name. And, as you say, a really traditional name with a long history behind it. I was at school with a girl called Honor, and it always seemed so glamorous.

American...!!! It's English..well British, but ok! I'm not a fan of 'word' based names either as it happens. But it's funny when a name means something you change your mind...!

We don't know the sex of the baby, it's going to be a surprise....! Pretty sure it's a boy as it would happen..

I love that name! Honor is a beautiful name!

Iris.. erm, not so much!

Wishing you well whatever the name you choose, huge congratulations!

I love both names. I chose Catherine but had ds instead! I love it, I love Honor too.

Oh, I hope you have a girl.

I honestly don't know why people feel they have the right to comment negatively on people's choice of names - it's like saying 'oh what a shame she has dark hair'. It's nothing to do with anyone else (unless I suppose you'd chosen SlutStar or something )

Honor is gorgeous :)

So what names have you picked for a boy then

(It may be an English/British name, but the only ones I know are A-Merrrr-I-caiiiiin Oooonnnnnneeeeerrrr)

YANBU. none of his business. I would advise only discussing baby names between the two of you as otherwise everyone else thinks it's fair game to comment.