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Taking phone into bathroom

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RawDEal · 05/12/2010 22:34

sorry for name change
would you be suspicious if your oh took his mobile into the bathroom with him when he went for a bath or shower? he never leaves it lying around unless he's nearby and when he gets a bath he takes it in there with him. Tonight I saw the outline of the phone in his dressing gown pocket as he was going into the bathroom so said "why do you always take your phone in the bathroom??" and he got quite defensive and said "I don't, my wallet is my pocket too because I have nowhere else to put them" Hmm in an entire house he has nowhere else to put a wallet and a phone while he gets a bath??
so as he was getting ready for his bath I noticed he put his wallet on the mantelpience but not his phone so I said "remember your phone when you get in the bath" a little sarcastically and he said "actually I'm taking it in there to play games on" Hmm
so should I be suspicuous then? I have looked on it before and there was never anything dodgy but why is he so protective over it? I know he deletes messages and texts at wierd times (like when he's on toilet, door locked etc).
But I never find anything incriminating. Maybe he's TRYING to make me paranoid??

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WhenwillIfeelnormal · 06/12/2010 11:03

I sympathise about your Dad, TLES and empathise too, since my Dad fell very ill a few years ago and we thought he was going to die. We were lucky enough to have a cordless landline and kept that in our room, as well as my mobile, but I think that's the only time I've ever slept near my phone. Once the danger had passed, it wouldn't have occurred to me to have such an irritant in the room.

And I can't see how this explains having a phone on silent for text alerts, deleting everything, giving your contacts pseudonyms, not letting your phone out of your sight and feeling nervous if anyone uses it?

Malificence · 06/12/2010 11:13

DH is surgically attached to his Iphone - he's not having an affair, looking at porn or compulsively doing anything Hmm , he just loves his phone. He uses it in the bathroom for the radio, sits playing farmville while on the loo etc. etc. He also has to be contactable at all times for his job and his work mobile is a bit crap.

But, he's never secretive with it/has it on silent, never , ever deletes texts ( or emails, it drives me to distraction that he has over 100 pages of emails going back to 2005) - whereas I'm a compulsive deleter, can't stand having an inbox full of messages, that means nothing either, other than I'm a bit OCD Wink.

It could mean everything the way he behaves with his phone, most people are spot on with their instincts, or it could mean absolutely nothing - unlikely if you are suspicious though.

The people who think it's odd to have a phone in constant use obviously aren't gadget freaks - if you're not, then you won't get it. Wink

CoventryCarole · 06/12/2010 11:21

The thing is with modern phones like i-phone is they aren't just a phone. I can read the papers and novels on mine, watch videos, do emails etc. I also keep it on silent because having the stupid message bleep going off annoys me and is disrupting for others. Plus I don't wear a watch because I've never found one that will fit my (tiny) wrist, so my phone is my only way of telling the time.

I don't know, the above doesn't necessarily mean he's innocent but I think nowadays many many people keep their phones on them at all times. I feel very scratchy if mine is not in the same room as me! It's irrational, I'm not a spy or a doctor on call

CoventryCarole · 06/12/2010 11:23

Oh yes and the girl next to me at work has an empty inbox at all times (the freak) because she hates having old messages sitting in there. Mine has got about 900 or something stupid

Malificence · 06/12/2010 11:40

The only messages I keep on my phone are saucy ones from DH. I delete everything else, I must be a freak too. Grin

booyhohoho · 06/12/2010 12:20

the only people i know who are attatched to their phones are teenagers or my EX, all of whom were usually hiding something.

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RawDEal · 06/12/2010 18:46

It's not an iphone or blackberry or anything posh/. it doesnt have gadgets on it so there's not much he can do on it. thing is he is a compulsive liar in the past. at one time he was in regular contact with a girl on facebook and lied about that. So Im not paranoid, i know what he's like for lying and being dishonest. even if its not an affair hes upto something.

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RawDEal · 06/12/2010 18:46

It's not an iphone or blackberry or anything posh/. it doesnt have gadgets on it so there's not much he can do on it. thing is he is a compulsive liar in the past. at one time he was in regular contact with a girl on facebook and lied about that. So Im not paranoid, i know what he's like for lying and being dishonest. even if its not an affair hes upto something.

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MinkyBorage · 06/12/2010 18:48

check it! You have to check it

LisaD1 · 06/12/2010 19:47

Oh dear, I wonder what my DH thinks of me and my permanent attachment to my phone, it goes everywhere with me. I have a very demanding job, a few needy friends and a disabled mum and my big fear is any of those not being able to contact me, even for a second, so my phone is always by my side.

That said, DH uses it quite a bit (I have lots of minutes/texts) so it's not as if I'm secretive about it.

2rebecca · 06/12/2010 20:25

Have no idea if my husband takes his phone into the bathroom with him, I don't search him. He's not in there for ages and rarely remembers to take his phone anywhere so I doubt it.
If you suspect him of having an affair then discuss it.

gettingeasier · 06/12/2010 20:32

After years of key/phone/wallet on the work top I finally noticed it was keys/wallet only.

It was an affair

Bunbaker · 06/12/2010 22:06

"The people who think it's odd to have a phone in constant use obviously aren't gadget freaks"

Gadgets are a means to an end not a means in itself. I use my mobile to keep in touch only if absolutely necessary when I am out of the house. I am not indispensible or self important enough to think that being contactable at all times is essential.

The only time I feel it necessary to be contactable is when I don't have my daughter with me.

I think it is the height of rudeness for people in company to be constantly fiddling with their phones and having meaningless text conversations. I feel like telling them to go home if they prefer texting to talking to real people and to get a life.

DanceInTheDark · 06/12/2010 22:14

I have my phone with me all teh time.

I'm not having an affair.

I take it to the loo - it gives me an extra few mins! Wink

It comes with me when i am in the shower because my mum has a habit of ringing and nagging on to whoever answers.

happiestblonde · 06/12/2010 22:23

Oh dear, my phone is always on silent (hate ringing phones) and always on me because of work/MN/the online dailymail gossip pages. DP wouldn't have a phone if it wasnt for me he barely uses it when we're together but his is always also on silent. We don't have each other's passwords or even share our incomes aside for bills... I thought all this was normal until I started reading MN. Thank God we trust each other.

Check it OP - I think the biggest thing is whether he's changed and become like this or is just a phone person. Check it then you'll know.

Bunbaker · 06/12/2010 22:30

"It comes with me when I am in the shower because my mum has a habit of ringing and nagging on to whoever answers"
Switch it off and take your landline off the hook. It's easy.

DanceInTheDark · 06/12/2010 22:54

we don't have a landline and its really not a problem.

DH also takes his phone everywhere with him.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 06/12/2010 23:06

gettingeasier ...I am sorry you had to find out what you did x

And the way you did.

Baileysandice · 10/12/2010 19:17

RawDEal - just wondered how things are at home? X

Wilkoa · 10/12/2010 19:54

It was the day H did a double take and came back across the bedroom and took his phone while he went for a shower!!! (bathroom does not have a toilet in it) that I knew something was up.
As I was about to give birth however, I fled to my parents and got on practicalities.
H was having an affair with a friend of mine. They are an item, I am a single mum.

welshandproud · 11/12/2010 19:31

Oh Wilkoa your H was a real piece of work!Shock Think you must be better off without him but I know how hard life can be as a LP.

My exH was always glued to his mobile but it wasn't til I noticed that he'd PIN protected it that i became suspicious.

Any news RawDeal? Hope we're wrong but i can vividly remember that horrible feeling when your vague suspicions suddenly become real and you have to face the truth.

LeroyJethroGibbs · 11/12/2010 19:42

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ohdearyme11 · 11/12/2010 21:04

Wilkoa, what a pair of bastards to do that to you x

loopylou6 · 12/12/2010 13:09

Do people not worry that taking their phone into the bathroom might break the phone if they drop it it condensation gets in it?

fortyplus · 12/12/2010 13:17

I take my phone in the bathroom sometime. I leave it on top of the laundry bin so sometimes it falls in with the smelly socks. Texting in the bath not recommended if your hands are wet...

Oh - and I did once drop a phone down the loo so it didn't last long after that! Grin

Don't suppose any of this odd behaviour will make dh suspicious, though - I usually leave my phone lying around and the kids read my incoming texts!