My ex-husband and his new girlfriend

[ConfuseddotComMum]

I split up with my husband 2 years ago. A year ago we got divorced even though Im still in love with him (on my wishes, in case he met someone else whilst we were still married) because he refused to come back home. Neither of us had moved on or got involved with anyone else. Three weeks ago, he told me that he has been seeing someone else since Sept. I am absolutely devastated. We have two children, she has three. Im in new territory now. He has already stopped taking my calls and wants me only to text him about the kids. Wot an idiot. I put it to him that if one ended up in hospital did he expect me to text or ring him. His answer was that they've never been in hospital so far! How long should I suggest he wait before introducing our kids to her. Should I get him to introduce me to her first? I don't no what to think and he is thinking with his groin at the moment!

FIVE YEAR OLD THREAD ZOMBIE ZOMBIE

I think tbh after being separated for 2 yrs and divorced for 1 you need to move on with your life.

It's not his fault you are still hung up on him. It's perfectly fine to ask you only to text about the kids/important things given you are still majorly hung up on him.

It's hard when your ex refuses to move on with their life even years later.

His gf is his problem. He can introduce her when he feels it is appropriate. You can point out to him that too much too soon would not be good for his relationship with his children if he wants to go full on straight away, but it won't go down well given it is obvious you are over involved in his private life and still in love with him - he will interpret it as you trying to control his love life and not as you being interested in the DC wefare.

Ahh boo

Who would have thought someone who can cure cancer would have a gmail account eh?

Seven years on, I hope things turned out well for the OP!

wevegot you've got to admit it's impressive though - curing incurable diseases and getting husbands back. I'm deffo signing up

Me too West. Maybe we can ask her to update.

I'm curious as to why the post about Dr Zaza is still up but HQ have removed the second one to 'have a look' - wonder what was in it?

I know! If a post recommending a witch doctor that can cure AIDS is still up I wonder what was in the other one!!!

There is a lot of what if's and maybe's in your posts'. He has only been seeing her six months. It may not turn out to be a LTR anyhow. And TBH if you are divorced then this is going to happen again if this woman isn't a keeper. Then there is your own situation, you might meet someone.
At some stage in your DC's lives they are going to meet their parents new partners. I'd be more inclined to have age appropriate conversations with them when the time is right. Meanwhile I'd be getting on with life.

:: shakes head ::

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Any chance of an update op?

My ex husband who I split with 2 years ago has a new girlfriend and it’s hit me for six.. I can’t seem to move on or stop thinking about the life we could have had. We have two daughters and all I wanted is for us to be a family. How can I move on.. how can I stop feeling this pain, it’s frustrating I can’t seem to stop loving him or wanting him. Please any help will be gratefully received xx

@Nibbles82 you need to start your own thread. People would be happy to give advice.

I have been the gf and it is really hard to balance the situation.

Unfortunately it didn't work out too well for any of us. You kind of end up in a triangle situation and he ends up feeling like he has to keep 3 lots of people happy. Me, His kids and his ex-wife.
It can be very stressful

10 year old zombie!