My dh and I have not been speaking properly to each other for about 5 weeks now. Began after an argument with him stonewalling me. I now don't really try to talk to him unless about something I have to - but it is him who is doing the "not talking" iyswim. He still criticises though and shouts when he sees fit. Am wondering whether it was like this for other people before they split... We have so many issues, dh bad at communicating and also can be dictatorial and very negative and I am somehow unable to even try to talk about any of this as cannot face argument we will undoubtedly have.
Just the fact that he thinks it is okay to not talk for this long means that I somehow feel humiliated and "made lesser" - how does anyone come back to normality after that?
Have done things to damage relationship as well, but it is he who dictates what we can and cannot talk about and is a very uncompromising character emotionally. He is very hard working and helps / has helped in that will often try to be around if I need to be elsewhere (we have 3 children who are 4, 6 and 9 - and he often works from home) - he likes cooking and does quite a lot of it. However that's it, any other bond we have here is purely to do with the kids. They are at my sister's at the moment and both dh and I are sitting in living room on separate laptops (that's the other thing, he is a workaholic and is PERMANENTLY on the computer) not talking at all. I have said two things to him since I got back from dropping kids off and he has just grunted coldly back looking hyper pissed off and cold.
In past when he has done stonewalling thing I have felt kind of desperate but this time I kind of think - well, he doesn't want to talk, so what..... Obviously this is no way to live though.
Any thoughts?