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What does this MEAN???

104 replies

colditz · 04/12/2010 13:39

I was discussing my Bf's marriage status with him about 6 months ago, saying that ideally I'd like him to get divorced as soon as he can afford it. (he is still, technically, married)

he said "Well, yes, obviously, but I'm not buyng you an engagement ring anyway" (I have always said I detest diamond solitaires, not colourful enough)

So I said "I don't want a bloody engagement ring anyway!"

"What do you want then?"

"I want a panda. A real one, but very very small, so I can put it on a clip and wear it in my hair!"

The tone was verrrry light hearted and conversation soon deteriorated into how one would stop the panda pooing in your hair etc...

ANYWAY

Yesterday, he told me to hold my hand out. I assumed that this would be a handful of receipts (as it normally is) and refused. He was VERY insistant that it wasn't rubbish this time, he promised etc ... and...

it was this

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Portofino · 04/12/2010 14:23

It's good that he pandas to your desires.....

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colditz · 04/12/2010 14:26

I just bought the panda ring. I'm going to wrap it up and put it in his stocking

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Longtinsellyjosie · 04/12/2010 14:30

Arf at those rings! Grin

Congratulations colditz! It's not every day you get proposed to with a panda...

ShanahansRevenge · 04/12/2010 14:38

Love it! Love this thread! SO much more romantic that usual engagements...he would NEVER have gone out and got that panda if he was not serious!

QueeferSantaland · 04/12/2010 14:38

Aw an engagement panda!

You do have to know for sure though, or propose to him using panda ring.

Will he have mentioned his intention to his mum or a friend?

DanDanDanDanDanDanDanDanDan · 04/12/2010 14:44

at confuzzled harriden

He sounds great, [potential] congrulations!

DanDanDanDanDanDanDanDanDan · 04/12/2010 14:44

Or congratulations if you'd prefer...

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colditz · 04/12/2010 14:45

No. He's a private person, would not have discussed this.

ARRRRG

How do IKNOW? I can't ask him, I just can't. It's agonising. And seriously, what if he says "No, it's not an engagement panda, are you crackers? If I wanted to get engaged to you, I'd have said someything, wouldn't I?"

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SheWillBeLoved · 04/12/2010 14:55

May I suggest these for your cake topper? Grin

BertieBotts · 04/12/2010 14:59

Aww SWBL - love it! Xmas Grin

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colditz · 04/12/2010 17:32

friend of mine just rang - I explained the issue - she also thinks this is an engagement panda....

[][][][][][][][]Confused

(That was me shitting bricks)

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ItalianLady · 04/12/2010 17:48

Do you want to be engaged to him?

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colditz · 04/12/2010 17:50

Yes

Shock
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Riddo · 04/12/2010 17:52

Just asked DH's opinion.

He thinks you should ask "if it's an engagement panda or if he is just pandering to you."

Sorry, blame him, not me.

I think it's an engagement panda Smile

ItalianLady · 04/12/2010 18:00

But you said you weren't ready Confused.

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colditz · 04/12/2010 18:01

Yes, I know, I wasn't half an hour ago.

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spidookly · 04/12/2010 18:01

"I very specifically and deliberately did NOT say "So is this an ENGAGEMENT panda?""

:o

You HAVE to ask him that! It's not to late.

"How do you ASK that question?"

You ask it like he's a looper for giving it to you.

(which he is, but in the sweetest, funniest way possible.)

My guess for what it means is that an engagement panda (which this definitely is BTW) is something you get as as a private symbol of your intention to get married when he's sorted out his marital status.

Nobody else will go "OMG is that an ENGAGEMENT panda? Give it here, I want to twist it around 3 times and see how big its eyes are."

If you can't bear to ask, the other approach (and I would HAVE to do one or the other - don't let this become a thing you feel weird about, it's too special) is to say to him later:

"thank you for my engagement panda, I love it"

ChippingIn · 04/12/2010 18:04

I love your shitting bricks!!

Come on - hold the Panda out to him and say 'Does this mean what I think it means or am I reading too much into it?'

That's an easy one for him to reply to isn't it!

Come on - we have to know!

ChippingIn · 04/12/2010 18:05

I wasn't half an hour ago

Brilliant, absolutely brilliant!!

ItalianLady · 04/12/2010 18:11

Ask him what he wants for his engagement present.

Or just ask him "are we engaged now?" If you have shared bodily fluids you should be able to ask him if you are getting married.

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colditz · 04/12/2010 18:11

He's gone home though!

I can't ask him over the phone!

(Can I???)

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ItalianLady · 04/12/2010 18:19

Text him. He has time to think. You don't have the dreaded silence. Hopefully he will be flattered and say all the right things.

MrColditz,
When you said you didn't want to buy me an engagement ring and I said I didn't want one anyway but did want a panda, does that mean that the panda you did buy me is an engagement symbol? Mucho love, colditz xxx.

or

Is the panda in lieu of the engagement ring neither of us wanted or a spur of the moment gift?

Or

do I need to book the church/hotel?

ChippingIn · 04/12/2010 18:27

Why has he gone home?

mmmwine · 04/12/2010 18:37

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overmydeadbody · 04/12/2010 18:43

I don't think the panda means you are engaged.

I wouldn't read too much into it.

He bought it for you, off the back of the conversation, and he's obviously a lovely keeper, but don't ask him if it is an engagement panda. Unless he starts leaving copies of 'perfect bride' lying around.