someone please give me some good advice, and sort me out!!!

[sanchpanch]

Dp left me and 2 girls 3 months ago, for the first 2 months everytime he came round i would cry and beg him to come back, he didnt, he said he needed to come back because he wanted to and not cause i was begging him to.....

He hasnt seen girls for a few weeks and i am dropping them to him tomorrow, i want to know how to play it, i worry if i dont keep telling him i miss him and want him back then he wont know and think i dont care, but on the other hand i think if i continue to beg etc he will know i am there waiting, i did say to him a few weeks ago that i worry if i dont keep telling him he wont know and he said if i didnt tell him for 10 weeks he would still know how i felt,

I just want to give us the best chance at getting back together i am in pieces with my family not together,

but i do know that i cant make him come back, and i worry that if i am not telling him i do want him back, he may decide he does want to come back but will be worried i have changed my mind and be scared to tell me...

But surely if he wanted to come back he would take that chance?

This makes me sound like a sad cow, but please belive me i am not!! i am just in pieces!!!

Any advice greatly appreciated. thankyou

Great words of advise Steffee.
You will wonder where your strenght(how do u spell it) has come from Sanchpanch

thanks steffee for that advice, glad things worked out for you,

I know i am not old but these girls were young!!!!

But i did think well none of them would be intrested in him!!!LOL (cause he is out all the time)

Starting a relate course to called new life new challenge, looking foward to that

Blimey i am overwelmed by the advice on hear thanks

every1 is Gr8 on here. Ive found this site so helpful.

And he does say to me he cant come back out of pity and no i wouldnt want him to, he says he needs to be one to knock on door and say he wants to come back, and i guess i would feel better about that if he does, but if he doesnt then life has to go on.....

Yea i UNDERSTAND that Sp, but everything cant be on his terms either, that means he's got you right where he wants you. Thats not right is it. I hope you print these threads off then you can look back & thing how gr8 youve been, & how much you have come thru

anyone else got any advice?

if your feeling low and feeling like i did that no one would be interested in a 32 year old single mum then do what i did.
i went out with my mates occasionally but found pulling(lol)in pubs very hard,so i joined a couple of internet dating agencies to see what happened,i didnt take it seriously at all,wrote a very honest profile about myself ,stuck a picture up and waited to see what happened.im not a supermodel by any means but got inundated with messages from guys,ok i admit some were perves but the majority of them where nice blokes (and even some hotties),ive chatted by email to a few but made it clear i wouldnt be meeting them for along time.i really just used it to help my self confidence.
i never expected to use it to find a partner and realise that your not ready for that yet but after chatting to one guy for a long while hes now mine and im really happy and settled.

my advice is to use it for a bit of fun,and boost your self confidence but never take it seriously.if you were really wicked (lol)you could casually drop into conversation about a guy you have started talking to ,make ex jealous it may be just what he needs to start the run back to you. be as devious as you wan he never has to know...and if it works he'll think its his idea anyway...

anyone any more advice?

Hi SP - what happened when you saw him on Friday? Hope you were calm and looking lovely... Am out most of today but update me and I will post later

not to bad thanks, he tried to get me to stay for tea, but i politely refused,

When he dropped them back, he went to kiss me goodbye and i stepped away.. then i was holding baby and he kissed her then kissed me on the cheek, why would he kiss me goodbye, i dont want to kiss me goodbye, i want a snog, i would rather go without than have him kiss me like his mum!!!!

He was wearing designer ripped jeans which looked odd because they are not what he would normally wear, so i looked at him and he wasnt the person i knew, although I still love him very much and cant believe he has left me a single parent... ARRGGHHHHH

He probably dare not kiss you properly after you stepped back the first time! Anyway it lets him know he can't just have what he wants when he feels like it which is a good thing. Well done for refusing to stay for tea too!

Found out he has been with someone else for past few weeks 3 i think,
Have posted another topis on do i need answers to move on,
Like why didnt he want to save our relationship yet was keen to start a new one,

Dont know if i should just rise above it and hold my head up high

Think answers to my questions might be to painful to hear but do i need that to move on, ARRRGGGGH
This is awful

he didnt want to save your relationship - i would hesitate a guess at because shagging is ultimatley more fun than looking after screaming kids, and the mundanity of life.

Glad you started new thread sanchpanch - I'd also like the same answers. Well done for being so strong! and I know what you mean about being kissed like you are his mum! Been there also!

Ripped jeans - snap - that's what my dh turned up in the other day! Back to being young and trendy and appealing to opposite sex! Mine would never have worn anything like that in the marriage either.

Think you've hit it on the head custardo! I don't think it's just the sex thing though - it's sex with someone new isn't it or someone you can't have!