I have been hanging around for a while without actually posting, so this is my first post, sorry its a bit long.
Basically DH has a friend who is a bit of a pest...not to DH (he thinks the sun shines out of his backside)
Earlier this year, we ended up at marriage counselling because of the disrespectful way DH behaved when this guy was around. Basically he didn't come to my 30th and choose to go dancing with this guy instead. On another occasion his friend invited him to stay for a weekend and told him, I was going to be angry anyway whether he came or not and to just ignore my being angry.This is just a few of the things this person has done. I choose to forgive all this after MC, and agreed he could stay at our house.
We were supposed to go out as a family with him as it turns out DH said they always went to eat so he wanted to do something else. I suggested dancing which DH never says no to. Well his friend didnt want to go to that and wanted to watch a film instead. So DH tells me to book restaurant and go with kids, he will come later. From past experience involving this man I would have sat there alone with the kids fuming and they will either not come or come late. So i said I no and stayed home.I felt I had been manipulated by DH and that he knew he was not going to go for dinner anyway but agreed so I allowed his friend to stay.
On Sunday afternoon my DD brought me the takeaway containers DH's friend had eaten from and stuffed under the sofa since Thursday night, to say I am livid is an understatement.
DH doesnt have a lot of friends so I was happy for him to hang out with this guy, although I had concerns about him being immature the first time I met him. But over the time I've known him its just been gross disrespect all round when he is at our house. I am truly sick of it.
Any advice? Anyone been through this?