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I want to seduce my boss...

60 replies

SillyTeenager · 15/11/2010 22:38

Hi, I am a namechange regular.

The feeling towards my boss is only recent. He is a very succesfull and somewhat distant alpha-male type. We went on a trip together recently and got to know eachother better. I grew to really, relly like the man beneath the alpha-male cover. He is sweet, gentle and nice. But I have not really thought about him in that way until the last night of our trip. We went for a dinner with other people. He sat very close to me the whole night, and I caught him looking at me constantly in a shy, gentle way. He'd avert his gaze whenever I caught him staring. I know how childish and unfounded this sounds. But since that evening I cannot stop thinking about him. I did not expect that. I did not have feelings for him beforehands. But now I really, really fancy him, and the thought of not being with him fills me with so much sadness. I want to be with him but 1. He is my boss. 2. I am basing my feelings on one night of looking at eachother. I know how silly I sound. But I feel so sad when I am not around him.

I know what I want to do. But how? Is it silly to think that I can get together with him based on one night of stolen glances?

OP posts:
fartmeistergeneral · 18/11/2010 12:43

no,nothing wrong with thick labourer types - just that I didn't find him remotely attractive until he obviously found me attractive!!

WowOoo · 18/11/2010 12:48

Listen to MsGee. It's work. There is a clear power imbalance.

I'd say examine all other male options carefully also. There are a lot of men out there.

Olympickney · 18/11/2010 12:49

Keep it as a 'fantasy' for self-pleasuring moments Wink

MrsVincentPrice · 18/11/2010 16:38

OP, I have been moved by your dilemma to dig out my battered old copy of Sex Tips For Girls, and here is Dr Sex Tips' advice to someone in a very similar situation, which I think cannot be bettered.

"It all comes down to the single, pivotal question - can you afford to lose your job?
Do you have an aging mother and three spinster aunts to support? Is this the job of your dreams, leading to certain fame, fortune and inner peace? Are you on parole?
If so, give the boss a miss. When it comes to sex versus survival, one must regrettably opt for survival.
But if this job is not if the essence, what the he'll, have a go - although it is better to carry on with one who doesn't have the power to fire you. Try someone in accounting or something. Someone who can help you figure out your expense forms."

PrettyFeckinVacant · 18/11/2010 19:48

Grin MrsPrice

SillyTeenager · 18/11/2010 22:17

Thanks for all the advice, it is really useful!

Well, it is my dream job, so that's something to think about.

He has actually turned back to being cold. I dunno why. It does bother me a bit: like I said, we did get friendly on the trip, whether it was about fancying each other or not. So it is a bit sad to slip back into the cold, business like relationship.

OP posts:
fanjolina · 19/11/2010 09:31

He's probably being cold because you were off with him.

Pop into his office, and apologise for being cold with him yesterday - explain it away with "I had something on my mind" or similar vague statement.

At least then you will hopefully return to the friendlier relationship with him, which you seem to appreciate it - even if it doesn't go any further.

PercyPigPie · 23/11/2010 16:07

Update OP? [nosey]

atswimtwolengths · 23/11/2010 20:56

Yes, Mudandmayhem, I think it should be a firing squad offence to start a thread like this and just leave it!

PercyPigPie · 23/11/2010 22:54

Absolutely! Hope it's because she's too busy with him to reply ...

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